Hello

Hi I’m so sorry to hear your news . I’m afraid I don’t really know what ENBC is but you are obviously very distressed hearing the diagnosis . 
Being told you have a cancer is always a terrible shock and you are entitled to cry and you will , a lot . Let the emotion out and then you will at some point grit your teeth and be able to deal with what’s ahead .

I’ve had cancer twice and now about to get results of breast biopsy on Thursday . I’ve been in bits for the last 2 weeks and I don’t often cry  but now ….

Please try to look after yourself with healthy food and get some fresh air , talk and cry whenever you  need to ,and try to rest as much as possible .

i hope someone with this particular experience will respond to you , and there will be lots who will wish you well anyway .

bedt wishes , C

Sending you hugs. 

You found out something shocking, crying is a natural reaction. Don't worry about managing at this point, just get through your day. Find something you like doing and do it, take some time off work, go for a walk, have dinner with someone who you know will just listen and give you space to be silent or to talk. 

There is no right way to deal with finding out about something like this so don't be upset with yourself for reacting. Managing will come with time. 

If you feel like you need support contact your nurse, I found that when I needed any support they would get back to me quickly. Remember that just because people look like they are managing it doesn't mean they are all the time. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to come to terms with something scary like this. 

Best wishes. 

H

Thank you 

Thank you

Hi MamaAnnie

I also found out that I have breast cancer 2 weeks ago and with secondary breast cancer in my lungs. yesterday. Yesterday I felt numb but this morning I couldn't hold it together and cried and I have cried on & off for most of the day. I call this the grieving step. It's all right to cry if that's what you need. 

It does help to talk about it. Whether that is the nurse, friend or family too, but you need to give yourself time to process it. 

I've started to write a diary. It helps to put how I feel and random thoughts on paper. I think it has also helped me to focus and keep my brain functioning. I also use the back of the notebook to jot down questions I want to ask at the hospital. 

My better half suggested I use the axe to vent. ‍ (we have a firepit). I am tempted but knowing my luck I'd miss and hit myself. ‍

We all have our own ways, but one thing is true is it  takes time. 

Thinking of you.

Best wishes 

Skj

I am so sad to hear you are in the same place as me. Thank you so much for responding to me whilst still processing yourself. My heart and prayers go out to you and hope you get taken good care of.

Hi Mama Annie

Hope you are doing ok today.

Today I feel like I'm over it. I want to get on. There is only so much of worrying a body can do. I think the waiting is driving me crazy!!