Hi everyone

Hi Bwcher,

Welcome to the forum no one wants to be a part of. However, this forum is supportive and full of knowledge and experience.

I'm sorry you are on you're own and  your husband is away.

The initial shock of diagnosis is hard to process. I cried every time I thought about it. I couldn't even say the word cancer. I texted my siblings and told them I had it but not to phone me or visit until I had time to process it. My partner and adult kids I told as I knew they would suss I was in a state.

Then there's the wait for the results to say what you're facing. This is an anxiety provoking time.

However, once you know what you're dealing with, you take control again. You face it step by step. There are loads of treatment options and support out there.

I was where you are last year. I got my diagnosis in May, since then I've had a lumpectomy and sentinels removed, chemotherapy, radiotherapy and am now in remission on Letrozole for 5 years and bone infusions for 3 years.

We are stronger than we imagine and with good support around you it makes it more tolerable.

Please be kind to yourself, steam, shout cry do what you need to to help you process this. Also make use of the macmillan nurses and cancer care who are a great support.

Good luck with your treatment plan. Happy to answer any questions I can that may be helpful. Sending hugs xx

Thank you so much Miss Molly 

your words are so kind , I am struggling to say the word so for now I’m saying to myself … I have a lump and it needs treatment, 

the wait is unbearable and I do wonder how I will cope until the results come in , it’s my granddaughter birthday tomorrow and I am going to legoland so I hope I can smile all day .

Thank you for sharing your journey , it does fill me with hope that I will be on the same path.

xx

I hope you are able to enjoy your granddaughter birthday treat. You will draw on the strength from your kids and grandkids.

Try to stay in the present moments, days, we can't change anything. But we take some control over the future when you know what you're facing.

I hope you haveca worry free day and enjoy.

Keep us updated on your treatment plan and progress. There's always someone on here if you need to chat.

Wishing you well and a restful sleep tonight xx

Thank you once again , it has helped to talk tonight 

I’ll keep you up to date with my treatment plan too 

night night 

xx

Hi Bwcher , just wanted to pop in with a hug. Horrible to know you’ve got cancer but waiting to find out what the treatments may be. I think the unknown is the worst. And it’s sounds like you’ve already got a lot going on in your life. I have definitely read of people getting medication to help with the anxiety of a recent diagnosis, so if you are still feeling this way tomorrow I’d get in contact with your GP. There are also helplines here on the MacMillan site. Very difficult for you that your husband is away and for such a sad reason. I hope the legoland trip goes well, hopefully a good distraction. Love and hugs, HFxx

Hi there, I'm one of the community champions here in this group and I wanted to welcome you, am glad you found us, though I know of course it's a place we all wish we didn't need.

As the others have said, the uncertainty and the waiting for results is, for most people, the worst time. It does typically get easier once you've had time to digest it, and once you have a clearer treatment plan.  It's also tough to go through this on your own, am sorry to hear about your husband's mum, it's understandable you don't want to add more worry to him.

For me, distraction was the best thing at this point. I'd also suggest not to be tempted to Google anything as this often leads to articles about extreme situations which really don't apply to most of us. There are so many variations of breast cancer and treatment is personalised (and very good these days) it's much better to wait until you know exactly what you’re dealing with.

In answer to your specific question, if you're still struggling, then do go and chat to your GP for some support.

I hope you managed to enjoy you day at Legoland (I've never been but it sounds amazing) and I hope you get your results and some clarity soon. Best wishes  

Thank you so much for taking time to reassure me , 

I’m going to the doctors tomorrow I definitely need help with medication to await my treatment plan 

this site has been so lovely with the replies to my post and it’s made me feel heard too.

thankfully hubby now home and sadly his mum passed today 

such a tough time so I hope the coming days will get easier

thank you once again x

Thank you so much for your reply , this really is a lovely support group that has helped me already even thou I’m in my early days 

when my I have my treatment plan I hope I will feel stronger and able to cope with what lies ahead .

defintely a visit to my doctors tomorrow as I really need help to manage my anxiety 

thank you so much again , legoland was lovely to spend time with the family ( although I haven’t yet told my adult children .not the right time yet I wait for the treatment plan )

thankfully hubby is home but sadly his mum passed peacefully 

a tough few days but with the support of this group I’m know I’m not alone 

xx

Hi Bwcher,

From one grandmother to another, I am sending you love and support at this difficult time. 

I am also waiting for a further news about the way forward for a different cancer.

Take care, you are not alone. Reach out to this forum, you will always find support.

Thank you IonaF for your kind words and support we both need them on this journey,Xx