Just diagnosed and feeling wobbly

Hello and welcome to club no one applied to join.  The wait until you get your treatment plan is so difficult.  They take it step by step to try to get the nest treatment plan for you.  If you click on posters name you'll see their diagnosis and where they are .  The prognosis for BC is very good.  I told my daughter when I had initial diagnosis as she was away in uni.  Before that just a couple of what I thought were good friends knew ( 8 years ago and fair weathered friends ) and my siblings knew I was awaiting test results.  Once i had diagnosis I let news filter out, told my boss he could tell colleagues in the office.  It's quite personal choice though . Keep posting here, there are lots of people here to support you.  No such thing as silly question here xx

Hi sorry about your news, I found it best to tell one family member eg sister she then relayed any important information to family and friends. It's hard the waiting keep strong and put all these letters in a folder I am sure there will be more. Big hug xx

Hi, I was very open about my diagnosis (and I am glad I was) but the one thing I do regret is telling people the date that my prognosis was likely to be confirmed.  It wasn't the news I had hoped for, so people were kindly asking me how it had gone and I wasn't ready to talk.   Just something to think about, for me retaining control of telling people was important and I briefly lost that. Best wishes 

Hi JPP60

Welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer.  I told my immediate family that I was going for test to determine whether I had breast cancer or not.  Once it was confirmed I let the rest of my family know and then my friends.  I then set up a WhatsApp group for my family and friends so that I could let them know what was happening all through my treatment.  I found it very useful as it meant that I didn't have to keep repeating myself.

Wishing you the best of luck with whatever comes next for you.

Best wishes

Daisy53

I think it is important to follow your instinct on things like this.

Personally, I have found it beneficial to have told family and friends every step of the way, even when cancer was suspected, but not diagnosed. I feel that when the diagnosis came, or further information about the disease or its treatment, it was less of a shock to people because they had been prepared for it.

The drawback is that you can cause unnecessary worry of course which you may not want to do for certain personalities in your circle. I gave everybody the same information right from the start and I think it has helped people to be open with me and stay in touch with me without them fearing putting their foot in it, which has been invaluable support to me. 

It’s a big piece of news to share isn’t it - all the best to you with your decision. 

I had my diagnosis 22nd of June then 3 days later I had ct and then 3 days after that I saw my consultant or one of his team and they gave me my treatment plan before results of any scans, my mri scan was actually 2 days after my 1st chemo, I told my employer and son and ex partner who still lives with me on day of referral to breast clinic but only after appointment once  I had biopsies done and then other people people once it was confirmed. Its up to you and how you feel about when to tell people and what you are comfortable with people knowing. 

Good luck with everything x

Hi. You tell people when you feel up to it. I told manager and a few close friends at work and my mum. She then told people in the family and her close circle which I was fine with - she needed people to vent to as well and it in fact helped when chemo raised its ugly head. She was naturally upset and immediately went into protective mum mode saying I didn't need to have it if I didn't want to and could stop it if I didn't cope. Talking to a family friend calmed her down. It also helped taking her to oncologist appointments so she could ask her questions. 

All the best for Friday - don't be a stranger on here

Xxxx