Hi…new, going through treatment bud relationship breakdown

Dear Shepp79,

I am so sorry to hear that this has happened to you. It is horrible when the one person you thought you could rely on turns out to be someone you can't. Do you have family and friends nearby who can support you? 

I have found that people show their true colours in times like these. Don't hesitate to ask for help.

Wishing you lots of luck for your recovery.  You do not look like a freak, you have a battle wound from a fight with Breast Cancer. You are winning. 

Lots of love and a big virtual hug . 

XXX 

Hi Shepp79

Sorry to hear this has happened. Its bad enough going through Cancer etc without having relationship problems. I know it may not seem like it but it looks like with the attitude he had to you, he would not be of any support during your next stage. I have come to terms with how I look surprisingly, although I am so swollen it looks like a massive boob.The way I see it we are the same people with one less or 2 less body parts..and losing those body parts could save our lives...Hopefully you have friends or family to support you, I know it's not the same but all the support you can get is good. We are always here to help each other through. 

I find out tomorrow if I will need chemo or radiotherapy,  I had my mastectomy on March 23rd. Wishing you well on the next step of this journey that none of us want to be on. Much love and hugs xxx

That is sad that he reacted like that. Working out how to do this without him might be better for you, than him being unavailable but not being honest. I found my women friends more than willing to supportive. He maybe was like this before, men, some are complete b..tards. We find out how strong we are sometimes in the most adverse conditions. You will learn to love the new you. Better to have one boob than be like him, 2 faced. Karma is slow but he'll get it back one day. Learning to love ourselves imperfections and all is a journey. Good luck with your treatment. All will be well.

Dear Shepp79,  I am so sorry to hear about what has happened to you.  You DONT need a man like him in your life.  He is not the person to support you through your treatment and you deserve a man who loves you no matter what.  It is better that you find out his true colours now.  I understand how devastated you feel but you will recover, physically and mentally.  I had a similar experience after a bad car crash which left me in bed with a broken back (and other injuries) and my now ex husband was online to other women.  At a time when I was struggling to recover he was lying to me and showing a different side of him to the person I married.  Like you I now have breast cancer and I will survive this too.  You are stronger than you think.  Be kind to yourself. x

I hope you don't mind this, it's about cutting away anything that binds to people you want to get rid of. Like what you said Helen of Troy. 

Every cloud has a silver lining!!  You are better without him.  You deserve far better.  It’s an extremely hard time for you but you can do it. Let him see you can do it alone and you don’t need trash like him.  Xx

Hi I'm so sorry you are going through this alone.Do you have any friends, family, good neighbors you could ask to help you? Have you been to the Macmillan walk in centre in most hospitals to chat to? There is hospital transport you could take. You will find there are people more than happy to help also see if there is a Macmillan support group in your area. Sending you lots of love be strong xx

Hello Shepp79 

I really feel for you. I was diagnosed in 2019 and I knew at the time my husband (now X ) was having an affair.  It was so hard to deal with a cancer diagnosis knowing,  basically he wanted me out the way. What followed was, not only dealing with covid, but a cruel set of events that led to him leaving when I had returned to work,  literally emptying the house after making me believe we were "ok". 

I had 2 years of complete stress and feeling rejected and humiliated.  

Well, I'm now divorced and living on my own and happy. I wish he had left years ago. I'm glad my treatment gave me my life that I can now enjoy without being in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic human being. 

You will be OK, you will get a life back and be a strong woman for it. Please be assured you will have plenty of support around you. 

I'm here if you need to chat.

Julie x