Hi guys, really struggling today, people say you are so strong, I'm really not, inside I'm falling apart, I'm so annoyed with myself, I started off so positive, I knew it wouldn't be easy, I'm only on cycle 2 of 8 cycles, I just don't know how I'm going to get through it, I really don't want to give in to it, but sometimes it is so strong and the siide effects are so horrid I just curl up and go to sleep, I know I've got to do it, but I just don't know how, I know all of you are going through this and I admire you all for your strength and positivity, I'm just so angry with myself that I can't feel like that at the moment, I'm sure this will pass, but right now I feel feel very out of control and very weak for not standing up to it. Sorry about long rant, although I have family and friends you can't always just rant to them, you don't want to upset them, you don't want them to feel you are not coping, I'm just so glad forum's like this exist just to put these sort of feelings down to other people who get it xx
Hi meadow view I have every sympathy for you and you certainly not weak this treatment is so harsh I have awful days I feel like just awful and I do just curl up and sleep I’m now on 3rd cycle of EC and hopefully last week of injections which I’ve found affect me the most , I just try and remind myself each is a day closer to finishing it , I started doing art /painting on my good day which help me relax and passes time , a hobby is good ,, you are not alone feeling like this we are only human and it’s hard to be positive all the time as much as it helps , I’ve had days where I think I can’t do this , but we can , I just keep plodding on and so what I can , rest a lot if possible I’m lucky my children are adults and my husband is a good one as much as I dislike being looked after as needed haha I take the support I can , it can hopefully only get better and luckily get back to normal life eventually hugs to you xx
Thankyou so much louise, I think I just fear what is next to come, this cycle the hair went which has put me down a bit I suppose, I know on my good days I'm good, and I know they are coming, my children are also adults but it hurts me to see them upset and sometimes no matter how hard I try I just cannot be as posititive as they want to see, my hubby has been good but bless him he just feels so helpless, it's a lonely journey, in good days I walk a lot but its so cold at the moment I can't even do that, but thanks to people like you who just are there we will all make it, sending love to you xx
Meadow view - sorry you are down just now.
Chemo can be awful, I couldn’t do much more than sit on bad days and that’s just not me.
But it is doing its job so it’s a case of getting through. Don’t try to be what you’re not - if you feel rubbish it’s okay to say so cos when you feel better you can share that too.
If you want to cry then do, if you want to moan then do - only you know how you feel.
it does get better - keep a diary of symptoms, feelings, treatments - than you can look back and see how brave you are and what you have achieved.
xx
It’s just awful I know we have to do the best we can and just think and hope it it’s temporary, hair loss is just one of the worst , I still scare myself when I see myself in mirror haha , just take best care you can ,had a sit in garden today bloody cold haha quite refreshing on my baldy head xx
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