Hi I’m ThroughTreatment But Mentally Still Distressed

Hi NewMe, I’m sorry you are in this situation. I don’t have experience of this but maybe the Macmillan line could help or advise maybe who to contact. I’m surprised the surgeon who did your original op did not offer an additional op so your breasts could be matched. It seems that there are people out there who had this option. Have you tried contacting the original surgeon to ask if he/she can help? The other option possibly is to go private but that may not be something that is practical for you. 
I hope someone will be along shortly to be able to offer some more help who perhaps has experienced a similar situation.

If you are feeling low do contact the MacMillan chat, they can help to support you through this. 

Wishing you all the best.

Hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

Hi I do understand that, I thought corrective surgery was available. Love your body though, even the smaller boob.      Maybe it might be available down the line, keep asking. I retired 6 yrs ago, I hated the way the Government had interfered and ruined the job I was doing. Also I was a carer for my Mum and son at times. Only so much one can take. 

I bought a bra into which I can slot a silicone insert. My smaller boob isn't so obvious in some clothes. I think when one stops treatment it is a new beginning. I'm only just starting to realise this. I do so want to enjoy building things up again. I can decide when and how and not be driven by others pressures. Apart from having my son home alt weekends. He is non negotiable, I work hard to keep him exercised and stimulated, keep him out there. He is Autistic and needs me as much as I need him. 

I did Reiki levels 1 and 2 in the past never worked in it, just did it in friends. Might do another course. I feel my brain has been affected by all this, I have problems remembering names and words at times. My husband has one of those brains that collects words like a sponge, between us we work it out sometime. 

Ask your GP as well about breast reduction or finding out if you can have this op in a different area. Maybe ask for a second opinion. If some can get it in some areas it doesn't make sense. See if you can get on a waiting list. I'm a fighter, I have had to fight so much at times for my disabled son, I don't like injustice. Xxx

Hi NewMe

I'm 52 and finished my treatment a year ago. I had 6 rounds of chemo a lumpectomy, radiotherapy and then 14 rounds of Kadcyla.  I am so grateful that the treatment was successful but like you mentally I'm  not there yet.

My breast has been left 2 cup sizes smaller and is quite deformed. My surgeon is not really interested as she said because I'm small breasted I can't have a reduction on my good breast which I wouldn't want anyway. I have also tried prosthesis but don't get on with them and trying to find a bra and clothes is impossible. 

I have been told to fight this decision as according to the NHS own guidelines every breast cancer patient should be offered breast reconstruction to make your breast as similar as possible. 

You are not on your own with this .

Carolyn x

Hi Ral darlin, thanks for this. I think ‘balanced up boobs’ would be a great psychological positive for me. Is it that the ‘less endowed’ somehow are missing out? My ‘cancer boob’ is really ugly with the scars that were inevitable to save my life but I do think I might have recovered better mentally if I wasn’t coping with a plum in contrast to a melon. Like you, I don’t ‘get on’ with the prosthesis. xxx