Hi I posted for the first time the other day but haven’t introduced myself.
I have been told that I have breast cancer from my initial biopsy. Still waiting on Her2 results to say whether I will have treatment then surgery or vice versa.
From the very beginning I’ve had a mammogram, ultasound, 3 biopsies (one lump and 2 shadows near the lymph nodes which the consultant has said she’ll remove with the breast), CT scan and bone scan. An MRI had also been requested (after a team meeting on Monday). But I have received my next clinic appt for Monday 27th so I’m really hoping I get my next steps and something is started even though I wouldn’t have had the MRI by then. I did start Tamoxifin almost 3 weeks ago.
At my last clinic appt the consultant said she doesn’t suspect it had spread past my breast but obvs test results will confirm it.
I‘m waiting to tell my family until I have all my results and a set plan in place. I have a great small support network so I’m not on my own but will not worry my mum and dad or my kids any longer than is necessary.
Also I’m feeling ‘'ok’ That’s not to say I’m not having thoughts - has it spread? Will I be ok with chemo? Will I lose my hair etc etc … but it is what it is, I can’t change it and am feeling ‘ok’ about it all.
No tears, just a waiting game….
Waiting isn't easy but it at least it gives you time to think up lots of questions and possible outcomes, and perhaps some plans, They're right to be a little cautious to make sure you get the best treatment approach for you. I get my second chemo next week and I've started to lose my hair. Don't worry about that, just make the most of it if it happens by trying out stylish bandanas and hats.
Hello. It's ok to cry and to acknowledge your fear. Re telling family. Once I had my first biopsy results I told my daughter, friends and wider family. My daughter was in uni at the time doing bio medical degree. She asked me questions I couldn't answer and told me to ask, to get myself informed. You might find telling them now while treatment plan uncertain is easier for them as then once you have treatment plan it's a positive follow up for them that you making progress. Xxx
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