Hi,
I am struggling to understand what is happening to my wife 'Maz' ; 3 years ago we started journey that we thought had beaten off breast Cancer. Initially a lumpectomy, followed by 3 months of chemotherapy, followed by a single mastectomy, followed by preventative surgeries, ovaries removed, second mastectomy and then reconstructive surgery.
Whilst recovering from the last surgery July this year, Maz was experiencing discomfort in her back, which we thought was probably muscular due to the operation. In August of this year we have been advised they suspect secondary cancer attached to the spine. Treatment commenced with a single visit of radio therapy and now Chemotherapy due to commence weekly 02/12/2021.
In August of this year we celebrated Maz's 60th birthday with friends walking on a beech in Somerset. Now Maz struggles to spend more than 4hrs out of bed, due to pain and discomfort. She has become dependant on painkillers, a walking stick and wheel chair.
The consultants have told us that if it is as they suspect, the cancer is not curable but can be managed. There seems to be lots of ifs & buts, with no one able to offer a definitive plan of where this is going to take us. I seem to lose a little more of my wife and best friend every day.
Hello
I am sorry to read your post and Maz's situation with her cancer. She can obviously get support from this site if she feels up to coming on here /ringing Macmillan. However, it does naturally impact those around the cancer sufferer significantly too. It's very hard to watch someone you love suffer and, as you say, lose a bit more of your wife and best friend every day.
I think these groups may be useful for you to join and speak with others who are may be in a similar situation as you.
Just click the links and join the groups. I hope you find some more support in either of these groups to help you through over the forthcoming difficult weeks/months/ years.
Kindest Wishes, Lesley
