Diagnosis on Thursday for stage 3 breast Cancer. 42 years old, working full time and caring for my mother at home who has Alzheimer's.
Still in shock and feels like I have being crying all weekend. My husband is trying to see the positive that its not terminal but I'm so scared of treatment.
Seeing the oncologist tomorrow and don't know what to expect.
Just needed to write something to keep my head level.
Hello and sorry you find yourself here but you will get lots of support on this site. Thus really is the worse time - waiting for plan of action to rid you of this disease.
Take someone with you of you can to appointment and make use of your breast care nurse who should be there for every question you have.
Goos luck for tomorrow xx
So sorry you are here. Having just been through the waiting stage and now post surgery agree with the above post. I found working fulltime during the waiting stage really hard as i work in healthcare and also because there were so many appointments to go to which was tiring. It was such a relief when i was signed off sick after the op. My trust were really good at sorting things out quickly really pray yours are too.
All the best and really good luck with it all. Talking to people who have experienced this really does help . xxx
Hi,
I'm in exactly the same position. Was diagnosed 2 weeks ago and haven't stopped crying since. My mam is 80 and has ovarian cancer so I didn't want to tell her but had to. My husband is the same as yours and looking at the positives.
I'm having a pre op on Friday then a mastectomy in a couple of weeks.
I've found a lot of support on this forum and though it's awful to realise so many women are going through it its a comfort to hear their stories.
Try and stay positive, cry all you need and take one day at a time. I can't look too far ahead as I find it very daunting.
Good luck for your appointment tomorrow. We're all here thinking of you.
Lolly x
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