Hi ,not sure howthis works.I was given a 99% diagnosis ofbreast cancer on Thursday.Finding it really difficult to cope.I live alone & have nosupport.Please can someonehelp mme.xx
Hello . Glad you've reached out and joined this site as it's the right place for support and to ask any questions.
How this site works - you can start a thread like you've done or just jump in and join another thread . No cliques on here . If you click in users name you should jump to their profile which tells there story. So good idea to complete yours as saves giving background.
I take it given you told 99% diagnosis you are awaiting biopsy results? The waiting is the worse part . Once you have treatment plan you will feel better . Whenever you feeling down come on here to chat. There is an Awake thread for general chat. Just go to last page and say hi. You'll get a warm welcome. Started 3 years ago by LondonLass. She calls us fruit loops as we are all a bit loopy.
I am sorry you find yourself here, the place none of us wanted to come to..... however, this will possibly be the best place you come to. The knowledge on here from all the ladies and gents is fantastic, the support truly amazing. So.... 'try' not to worry, easier said than done I know, the main thing is you are already on your journey towards healing - the waiting is the worst time, once you know what it is and a treatment plan - then you can move forward.
With regards to support, we are all different and believe me our very own family and friends behave different. I have family however, only chose to tell me sister. My mum is nearly 87 at the time, so I chose not to tell her, I didn't want her worrying and asking me every day 'how I am' - my friend from school was amazing ... not!! Once told, she said they must have it wrong and I'll be fine!!!! and with this she 'was now very busy, and would contact me when life quietened down' - so the very people you imagine offering support will most likely be the very ones that don't .... think what I am saying is - don't fret that you are on your own as this condition really is 'about you' so to speak. My husband didn't know what to do and I suppose pushed it under the carpet. I have gained the majority of my support from this online community.
Once you know what type you have (if you do have it) and a treatment plan sorted out (what the recommend for you) then you will be able to move forward.
You will see a 'thread/post' called 'AWAKE' - this is for everyone and anyone to jump in no matter what time of day it is, its a place to go when you are feeling down, need help, advice, a laugh or a giggle - no question is ever to silly, non of us take it all in straight away - just know, you are in the best place and whatever your treatment .... you will get through this.
Sending you a gentle hug and please....try not to worry, worrying won't help - it just drains you of your energy and plays havoc with your mind. Talking of minds, you might like to down load some of the 'mindful' apps - these help you find ways to relax also there are breathing exercises that can help too.
G xx
I'm hoping this makes sense - only my mind says one thing and my fingers type whatever they like x
Hi I am so glad you managed to find your way here and reached out.
You aren't alone when it comes to these worries you find yourself with we can 100% relate. There is a whole community of support and encouragement here.
One of our lovely ladies calls them her wet sock moments. When life comes and smacks you with what feels like a wet sock. I was diagnosed in October and my head is still all over the place as I attend appointments and work with my breast care team who only want the best for me.
The 2 best bits of advice on here are dont Google it will do your head in and just go from appointment to appointment as the picture will change. The waiting to hear results is the hardest part but there is a whole community here waiting to support you.
Hi ,Sending you big,big hugs. I was in exactly your position just as Covid 19 came in and know exactly how you are probably feeling . The waiting really is the worst part as you can do nothing to hurry it along . The tests will be done as necessary and then the labs and doctors and other members of the your team will discuss your treatment plan. This is done on an individual basis. Hopefully you will get an appointment soon and be told what the plan is - please ask questions at this meeting until you understand what are your options. I took a notebook to jot down the plan and dates and times of possible further tests and my breast care nurse explained further after the surgeon had left. Take it all one step at a time rather than look too far ahead. The other thing I would say is that breast cancer is very treatable now and the treatment although not always pleasant does have a good outcome. Take care and try not to worry too much (yes I know that is easy for me to say now ) but worrying can be exhausting not least because it interferes with sleep.Sending more hugs xx Kwissy
Hi Sharazo. As the others have said, you are not alone. I too live alone and only have 1 daughter who tends to bother only about herself, but I have 1 good friend who, though may not be able to see me all the time, is always available for a rant or laugh on the phone. I'm a bit further on than you in my journey, I have a single mastectomy with lymph node clearance booked for 3 December. The waiting for tests/results does seem like a long time but I had my diagnosis at the begining of October. I am not having chemo as it doesn't work on the type of cancer I have. You will soon find out all the information you need from the Breast Care Team in your area. Just take one day at a time and don't use Dr Google too much. I only look up medical terms II don't know. Take care. xx
Hi , Sorry to find you hear but you have definitely come to the right place. We have all been where you are now and truly understand how you are feeling.You will no doubt still be in shock and feeling that this can't be happening to you . Once you get a plan of care you will start to cope with it all. Somehow I found that I got an inner strength I didn't know I'd got and tried to take it one step at a time. Your Breast Care Nurse should be there to explain treatments and terminology- some of it just initials which can be confusing at first . Have you had your cancer confirmed or are you still awaiting results ? Either way breast cancer is very treatable these days and many on here are testament to that. Be kind to yourself in the meantime and do things you enjoy doing to take your mind of things. Sending big hugs xxKwissy
Had biopsy Thursday and now have a 2 week wait for results. My lump is v big.. 3 inches and by my mammogram and ultrasound results the consultant is pretty certain that it's breast cancer.
