Struggling

Welcome to probably the most supportive site around.  There are so many people on here who know exactly how you feel.  We all react to our diagnosis differently and, at the beginning, every minute of every day you will feel differently.  Be kind to yourself.  The waiting is the worst part - once you get started with your treatment plan it will get better - then there is a routine to all of this and you start on your journey to recovery.  Don't go and ask Mr Google about anything.  There is some really good information on this site, the different threads on the discussion forum are amazing and the members are lovely - I have found everybody so supportive.  It doesn't seem like it at the moment but you will get through this.  One day at a time.....

Sending big hugs and good wishes.

Thank you Bev x

Welcome  We know you don't really want to be here but you've found the best place to be at the moment .

If you get the time fill out your profile it's just helps if we know who we talking to ( just nosy really ) If you click on my name you can rad mine .

First things first take a breath ?. The waiting is the worst distraction is the name of the game I had the cleanest kitchen ever 

Yes it us like a roller coaster that you can't get off but can get used to and handkerchief it .  

Try not to look too far forward just do one day at a time one appointment/ treatment at a time . Dont spend time and energy worrying about things you can't change concentrate on NOW .

Lots of support on here from people just joining or those of us who have been here a while . Spend some time having a browse around threads . They not full of doom and gloom like google . There are treatment ones but also walking sewing .

The awake site is full of everyday chat plus advice also lots of funnies ..yes you will laugh . We are called fruitloops you'll understand why if you visit .

You are stronger than you think we all are ...  

keep posting 

Hi

Cr4p news isn't it?  I was diagnosed July last yr (read my profile for cancer gubbins).  You're bob-on (as is Northerner - she always is!!) to take it one thing at a time, I just concentrated on the treatment I was having at that time, I did research but only on the reputable charity websites like this one (it is the best btw) and got lots of insight from all the lovely ladies & gents on here.

Two things that really helped ..

1) Friends - its a lot more challenging now but I found having friends around was really helpful, am sure technology can help this be achieved to some degree.  You'll be amazed how the good ones really rise to the occasion and even little things like daft presents in the post were a real pick me up when needed.  I also used it as an opportunity to dispel some of the terror surrounded with treatments as there's a high chance that someone in my friends group will go through the same at a later stage.  I also set up a whatsup (the Yorkshire version) group for my pals and that was good fun as well as not having to repeat myself umpteen times as to what was going on.

2) Fitness - there will be times when its challenging to eat healthiliy and get out for a walk/run/cycle but it will improve your ability to get through everything physically & emotionally and you will feel soooo much better.  You'll have rough days and won't be able to get out of bed but I know you'll be able to do things throughout your chemo cycles - I could and I was 6 stone heavier then compared to now (cancer bought me so many benefits!!!).

You may also like to avail yourself of counselling that's available through some of the charities, also Breast Cancer Now offer a 'someone like me' service where you can chat regularly to someone who has gone through what you are/will be...I found that really useful as well.

I'm now awaiting a new bionic boob being built from what's left of my stomach blubber (strangely there's still quite a lot to go at there-ha!) in early Dec..how exciting!

Good luck with everything and remember there'll always be someone on here who's gone though what you have so just ask.

Sam

Oooh Yorkshire_defector ! Have you a date for your DIEP? X

Hiya Londonmumof2

Indeed I do (though this had better not tempt cancellation fate!!), 8th Dec, only have it this early as am lucky to have private health through work. And only managed to get a date as am prepared to go into blummin' London for it, the local Royal Marsden could only give 2 weeks notice of date, not really handy when you're trying to organise work and someone to be here to wait on me hand & foot!!

Just bought the last of a long list of stuff, sexy support pants ahoy!

I'll be updating all when it happens as there doesn't seem to be a lot of DIEP talk on here I find. And this is all happening assuming my bone scan (cancer not density) comes back all clear, will know on Weds.

Hope you're doing well and your side effects have reduced/gone/are manageable.

Sam X

  Yorkshire_defector

Brilliant news Sam you'll be going into the new year looking forward to a flat tummy