I’m new and frightened

Hi Sparlysnow welcome to the forum and I am not in the least surprised that you are feeling as you are.

You are in that surreal time when it has all happened so quickly  for you, and whilst overwhelming for you, it is good news that things are moving as fast as they are. I imagine there will also be an element of disbelief, uncertainty and a question- Why Me? All of those are perfectly ok and normal and will pass but its ok not to be ok. so please do remember that this is about you and only you so you are the most important person in this so take any pampering thats available.   

I assume when they are putting tags in that you are having a lumpectomy? They will most likely take some lymph nodes for testing at the same time as the op. That waiting time can be very hard and we will be here whenever you need us to be so do pop in anytime and chat away as much or as little as you like.

Thinking of you and sending some huge big hugs your way for now.xx

Hi  and another warm welcome to the site. The whole cancer business is so frightening and stressful but you’ve come to a great place where there are lots of us at all stages of treatment. Many of us have found the ‘waiting game’ the worst bit of all in many ways as there so many unknowns. Somehow it feels more doable once you know exactly what sort of beast you’re dealing with and also once you have your treatment plan. At least then there are more tangible things to focus on and to adjust to, instead of a multitude of ‘what if’s. 
Keep posting and asking any questions, there are so many lovely people here to chat to and share experiences. 
Sending love and a big virtual hug, HFxx

hi im about  two weeks into my journey, i think the emotions you are feeling are normal, ive gone the whole rollercoaster of emotions so far i had my ultrasound on the 20th October where they found a 36mm mass in my breast, all i can say is take each day as it comes listen to your body, and rest when you need to, i find that walking helps exercise good for mental health if you cannot do that , try taking some time out to do something that you do like, this is the hardest thing that i think we will have to face, i find that dealing with other's emotions is hard too, look at some mindfulness things listening to music, rant when you need to cry when you need to but above all talk, id be very happy to chat whenever you feel the need to. take care x

Hi Sparleysnow

Very difficult time for you but you will get through it, just take one step at a time. Great you have found this forum it really helps to share your concerns, and yes there are lots of people here who have gone through the same thing and come out the other side.

Keep positive, keep strong, be kind to yourself.

every good wish your treatment going forwards. My experience with our wonderful cancer nurses and doctors is really positive, I’m sure you will be in good hands throughout

MrT1

Hi I have just read your bio and I can relate to the way you are tackling this. I too have the matter of fact let's get this sorted attitude. I am sure it won't always be like this and there will be times when I will hit a wall im sure. Its just looking at the scared faces of those around me and how I feel its my job to reassure them. 

I've got from mastitis or maybe breast abscess from my GP who thank goodness referred me to breast clinic. Seen within 2 weeks at clinic mammogram, ultrasound and biopsies taken as looked atypical of abscess. Next appointment biopsy results show papilloma but would need removing. Diagnostic surgery on 8th October and results last week show DCIS. Now booked for MRI to see if there are anymore in there. Then appointment on 13th Nov for results. Already know its further surgery extent will depend on results. Then its radiotherapy I understand from the consultant. 

So one of the best bits of advice I was given on here was just go from one appointment to the next as things change.

I say I'm ok but sitting up at 2am feeling very sick for the 3rd night in a row tells me maybe I'm not.

Hugs, i have just come out the other side. Had chemo and surgery at beginning of october and had a good outcome. Still a journey to make.

You will find strength like you have never found before

Ah that’s very nice . It’s helping me reading and even talking to people on here. I’m pleased you are on your way to recovery. People are very supportive on here too and I thank you all  

Ah thank you for your kind thoughtful advice. Sounds as if your just one week behind me. I wish you well with every step you take. Take care and I will catch up with you all when I can.

Hi Sparlysnow.

It’s so much to process isn’t it! I’m at the start of things too as I only had my results today. I’m just going to take one phone call/appointment at a time and I am not looking at google!
I have another biopsy next tue because there are some bits behind my lump they want to check and then a surgery planning appointment next Friday. Have you had your hormone results back yet? I haven’t and I’m a bit clueless but know it effects the treatment you have. I’m going to find out more when I see my breast care nurse next week. I had some dye or something put into my lump at my first biopsy and I’m wondering if that was the ‘tag’?! See, clueless!  
I hope your appointment today went ok, it’s another step done! 

It’s such a huge thing to happen, but it feels like there is loads of support on here. 

Keep in touch 

Take care 

Kate 

Hi Kate

To be honest I think most of us are clueless. We are now part of a club we didn't ask to join which seems to make up the rules as it goes along but with great traveling companions.

MRI brought forward to later today and results appointment to next week. So another sitting on the sofa at 3am. 

One thing I have learned is there is no right or wrong to how we feel and so far the breast nurses have been superb. 

No hormone tests done yet. 

Take care

Debs xx