Feeling a bit low/ignored

I had to protect myself from all of this...everyone has always said.I should not isolate....

WELL...it is a SELF protection sheild I wear...and there are other things to do than talk to any people who I know are going to let me down. 

I have one person...my X husband that I can say anything to and he just lets me rant and rant and then I feel better...that is my ONE real life person I vent to....and the rest here....

I do not know your diagnosis and I really don't know MINE fully yet....BUT I do know that we are STILL ALIVE. 

So daily, I try to act alive like I did before I knew I had cancer......a sort of denial but for me it works as a positive mindset.

Today I took my sons dog to the park to run with the other dogs for 2.5 hours...I had water for both of us and snacks...got some sun, so I look well...I assume no sun during summer but replaced with "radium" as the UK calls it...we call it radiation. Same thing..that was an easy one for me to figure out.

Laugh as much as you can and get those good endorphins in.

My son knows I have cancer...we were just arguing...I stopped it....NOT BY SAYING...I have cancer and I am stressed out (true reason)...but finally demanding the RESPECT I have always deserved.....I

told him to stop talking to me the way he was talking to me.

I caught a pot holder on fire while cooking and I didn't respond fast enough for him...too bad I knew I had it under control I just wanted to flip my tortilla..LOL

He started freaking out telling me I was "retarted"....I turned around and said DO NOT EVER TALK to me LIKE that...he has gotten away with it for 33 years.....I'm just being ME.....

Hope that helps

It did. Thank you.

My hubby and daughter are fab but it would be nice to have the support of my mum and sisters (I did tonight, apart from the 1 sister) to give hubby and daughter a "break". This 1 sister seems to turn everything round to make it about her! She has fallen out with so many people who have called her out about this. I didn't really see it back then, but I'm seeing it now. Very narcissistic behaviour.

From now on, if ever I need to vent, I will be coming on here. At least I know you all get it.

Thank you, thank you, thank you xxxxx

I have a sister like your sister.....we have never been close and it  has always been about her.....I haven't even told her because I know that I won't get any of the attention or caring I want from her. 

We took care of our Dad with Dementia together until 2020...and we TOLERATED one an other back then....now we pretend kissy face & we both try to make the relationship better...but it is what it is.....

I will tell her when it is over...I did text her to let her know to have an annual mammogram- I probably said "I had one today!"

She isn't one to go to the drs...., but she has MS (and only found that out from passing out at work and takes no medication for it)....I've told her many times it is time to start seeing Drs she is 43.

I'm glad you trust the other people in your life...Your Mum and other sister....leave the other one out of the conversations from now on....I would.....I would tell her a piece of my mind also.....hahaha

Families! Why do they have to be so complicated!

The 1 sister who is being supportive is the one I've least got on with in the past. The sister causing me grief is the one I was always closest to. I think that's why it hurts! Well, not any more. I'm not going to involve her unless she asks and when she goes on about how bad her life is, I will ignore her. Xx

Honestly, for ME...Family is the worst....

That does hurt when it is the sister you were close to......

My sister that died that I was close to would not have left me alone about this....

I don't know if I would have even told her because I feel like it would have upset HER more than ME.

She loved me to death....she bought me cards all the time because before this Cancer I had enough problems in my life.  She died of a drug overdose in 2018...

And my sister that died would have told other people off that didn't pay attention to me if she witnessed it.....

Me and my Mother have not talked for 4 years...she finds out thru my X husband I have Cancer and tries to get me thru HIM to call her....NOT BECAUSE SHE CARES...Because she is NOSEY.

I told him to tell her I was NOT going to involve her back in my life EVER.

When my favorite sister died...my Mother made a scene at the funeral home and would not enter unless "I" was not in there.....the WHOLE funeral home emptied out.....so my drama queen Mother could see her daughter that she neglected her entire life....because of her I did not go to the gravesite service for my sister because I knew she was FAKE making off like she was a Mother and I couldn't stand to look at her as I was the one that took my sister in when she was struggling and our Mother refused to help her.

Oh wow! You have had a complex relationship with your family. I just don't know how i feel anymore about mine, especially that 1 sister. I'm not involving her unless she asks - which I doubt she will. I'm going to be selfish for once and look after me! Thanks for engaging with me. I appreciate it. X

YAY!  YES...try to treat yourself like you would any child....that is what I was told.

One day I was depressed and did not want to eat but I remembered my therapist telling me to use this technique....

She said....who is your favorite kid? I told her my neice......she said next time you struggle doing something for yourself ask yourself...What if your niece wanted this?  

So I used that technique and I thought - If Allie told me she was hungry....I would GET UP and make her something immediately.....

So I did get up and make myself something....it was HARD....But, treat yourself well...because as time goes on...I figure out I AM the only one who really has to care about myself.

Very true! I will bear this piece of advice in mind going forward xx

When I was going through my treatment I asked my mother (84) if she could look after my daughter who has learning disabilities and not very well controlled epilepsy. My mum didn’t feel confident so asked my sister if she could help her. My sister declined saying that she would help if it were a real emergency…

I didn’t speak to her for weeks. 

I really don't understand the actions of our families at times. How would they feel if the situation was reversed? X