Was my mastectomy a mistake!!!

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Hi, cant sleep again, things going around in my head again, questioning now if I should have had a lumpectomy rather than a mastectomy. I know it's too late but I was rushed because of the Corona virus, plans were changed....I am (was big busted) 

If anyone sees this and is about to make the decision dont be rushed into it, I thought that taking it away would make me feel better because it would be gone,but in hindsight it would have been gone with the lumpectomy as well.

Sad and tired

  • Thanks Gail, I think I will ask if they can send my pathology report to me too x

    Debx
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    FormerMember in reply to Dab

    Hi Deb,

    My son had a recurring brain tumour from the age of 2 until age 16 when we finally got the all clear (he just turned 18). As a family I feel like we have all been through so much and only just left it behind. With that in mind I have smiled through my diagnosis and only ever cried in the shower or in the middle of the night when they are all asleep. This group is the only place I can put how I really feel and I am so grateful for it. 
    An Oncotype dx test happens in America. They look at the make up of the tumour and give it a recurrence score which helps decide if chemo is needed. I had to google it but I believe if it is in the nodes (mine isn’t) then the test isn’t done as chemo would be the recommendation. I would google it just incase that’s not right. My brain is like scrambled egg at the moment x

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    FormerMember in reply to Dab

    Hi Debs

               I got this booklet which explains everything. Also there’s Dreamthief on here who can provide links to Oncotype test etc. I’ve used Dreamthief for this so thanks Dreamthief. 

    Glad to hear your son well CBRY but sorry you have to go through this. 

    Lovely getting advice and hearing other people’s stories 

    Take care

    Gail

    xxx

            

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi Gail  /  & Deb /        Best Parker voice - Ahem! You rang Ma'Lady Hugging

    This link will take you to further info on the Oncotype test and to see if your results fit the criteria for the test.

    I'll try and add the 'Understanding Pathology Results' booklet below - Just click the coloured text Thumbsup tone1

    https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cfs-file/__key/communityserver-discussions-components-files/38/bcc161_5F00_understanding_5F00_your_5F00_pathology_5F00_results_5F00_web.pdf

    Hope this helps when you get your results Deb, G n' J

  • Hi claire, I'm so glad your son is well now but you have definitely been through it as a family. Big hugs.  I was told they didnt find anything in my nodes either thank goodness xx

    Debx
  • Hi

    This virus has caused so much disruption , I am so sorry you have such angst ,as if it is not bad enough getting a cancer diagnosis at any time. I looked on your profile and as you are HER2+ you will need to have chemo to enable them to give you Herceptin , so the oncotype test won’t apply to you , chemo will always be offered and advised. There is also a newer drug perjeta but I am not familiar with that , I know it is normally given before surgery with chemo , not sure about after ? In terms of the mastectomy , you will only have been offered it if they felt that was the best way forward , even in these troubled times there seems to be many women having lumpectomies. As your lump was large they probably thought that would offer the best result for you. I had a 2cm lump and three failed lumpectomies , I ended up with a mastectomy and the pathology showed no trace left of cancer - so I truly didn’t need one , and was sad about losing my breast (I was 51) but have now come to terms with it and had a diep reconstruction last December. You have such a long way to go with your treatment , just try and think about the next step , chemo, and you will find you will slowly adjust. 

    Very best wishes

    jo x

  • Thank you Jo x

    Debx
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi CBRY,

    The OncoType DX is now also done for those with 1-3 positive Nodes, I had 2 positive and had the OncoType Dx done.  

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi. Has the advice re: OncoType been changed in light of Covid-19? I had tel results with surgeon yesterday 3 weeks post mastectomy and total node clearance. 5.5cm lobular cancer, 2 out of 25 lymph removed. ET positive, HER-2 negative. I specifically asked her about Oncotype and she said no because of lymph involvement. I was really hoping to have it done as the thought of chemotherapy really scares me, especially with the COVID situation and as my husband works in the “frontline” at the hospital which will also cause practical issues should I need to start it any time soon....

    Would it be oncologist or surgeon who agrees to it being tested? 

    Nicky