Thought for the Day..

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I wondered if ladies might like a thread for a 'thought of the day' as something that has helped or is helping them through this journey.

It just occurred to me this morning in respect of the fear that comes along with being diagnosed with breast cancer and other people who haven't had it, but seem to think it's so easy ;) of something that I wish I had said to these people

When I was first diagnosed, I had a couple of close friends who had absolutely no understanding of the mental impact and said "oh such and such had that and they were fine" type thing.  My worry about it and any need for support was forgotten as soon as they had said it!

So, my thought of the day for people who have no understanding:

"Imagine you are stood on a cliff edge in a gale.  There is a 50% chance that a huge gust of wind will blow you over the cliff edge into the stormy sea below.  How would you feel stood there?" 

I think looking back, that this what I felt when diagnosed - the not knowing whether it would be ok or not and being told 'so and so was fine, blah, blah' was to me extremely annoying. But at the same time for someone who hasn't had cancer will try to come out with platitudes and can never really understand even if they want to- so this analogy would perhaps have helped them understand the fear that comes with being told you have cancer.

Anyone else have any 'thought for the day"?

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to WhatHappened

    Judith xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    love hugs and respect Ali xxxxx 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to seaspirit44

    Seaspirit44 definitely not all I'd be lost without most Blush

    but some you just think REALLY !!!!!!!!Confused

    XXXXXX

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Sunflower76

    Sunflower76 love that we'll needed thank you  xxx 

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  • You're all so amazing and I don't know what I'd do without you.

    I was posting here a couple weeks ago, and my friend asked what I was doing. So I told her I was on the macmillan online community checking in to see how everyone was.

    She just launched into a speech about letting it go, moving on, not letting it define you. She laid into my new business idea (asymmetric jewellery to honour women with breast cancer, raise awareness, with charity donations etc).

    Now, I value her friendship, but there is a limit to what I will put up with. I've been ridiculously positive throughout my cancer to my friends and family, finding comfort here instead. I never even mention it voluntarily.

    So I told her, rather tetchily I'm afraid, that when I was first diagnosed all I looked for were the happy endings and positive inspirational people. Anything to grab onto some hope or understanding. So if I can make one woman smile or laugh or feel valued with my business or on facebook or here, then I will. And can she please keep her opinion to herself as I'm 100 times more positive and level than she is, cancer and all. 

    Oops

    Also, not sure where this rant came from! So much for positive and level. LOL.

    Anyway, I guess what I am saying is that you are all amazing and I love you. (Creepy?) Hehehe.

    X

  • Well said!! After all we have been through we don't put up with any sh*t from anyone! Xxxxx

    Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Sunflower76

    Rant away ali owl! Those not in the cancer club have no understanding of what it is like to live with this crappy disease. Great business idea. Good luck xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    That is so true x no one other than us have any idea x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Love hugs and respect Ali xxxxx