Well. Welcome to this thread.
You may be surprised why it is here or happy it is here. Then again: ‘You have got to be joking! Do you know what is wrong with me?’ may be your response.
This all began on the Extreme Fatigue thread. On there several people wanted and needed inspiration/incentive to get out and walk. Many people see the benefits of it in their life and to help on this; mad journey, train ride, rollercoaster ride and other positively rude words journey called Breast Cancer.
It is not a thread created to make anyone feel less than they do at present. It is not a thread that will set people against one another. Being competitive with yourself or a simple challenge to yourself is the point, but not a race against others is a key premis.
The idea is that you can do any of these or none:
Well here goes.
Either it will grow and blossom, with lots of lovely people benefiting. Or I will have egg all over my face – not for the first time in my chequered life and career.
Leolady – may be adding in the odd gallop to my walks.
PS if you don't like us don't be cruel.
WhatHappened, Candlemas, great idea! Violetsniff, glad you enjoyed your evening, and Leolady56, what a fantastic photo! Xxx
Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!
Went to my first Tai Chi/Chi gong today at Maggie's, Really enjoyed it. It is different from the one I did before, but they are all different and just as good. Everyone was very friendly and welcoming. What a lovely relaxing accepting place it is. Only problem is parking, as in the environs if every hospital. Have to be careful; when DH took me for my dexa scan last week at the Hosp he got a parking ticket! Xxx
Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!
How nice for you ...and how relaxing that they were so “friendly and welcoming”.Peple who run clubs and things don’t realise what a boon they are for us.They should get medals I think,anyway....xxx
Hello Violetsniff,
Thank you for your kind reply and thoughts, a lot of this makes sense. You mentioned persuasion, this is a definite, if I ask mum to go somewhere with me and she says no, I say, I'll leave it and then she'll say oww oww I'll come with you. We have gone on like this and now mum will go virtually anywhere with me and this is lovely and makes me feel privileged - with this both my brother and sister now seem to think it is a given, that they don't need to take mum out and that mum and I are now a 'package'. I find this so very sad, very sad that they both can't see on the joys they are missing out on and more so, how on earth must my dear mum feel. Its at the point now if my brother was to ask mum to join them on a day out I know mum wouldn't feel confident enough to be with them and they certainly wouldn't try and coax mother into going (this would actually help, making her feel wanted and needed), all so very sad. Thank you for your advice and kind words I will work on this.
Have you any challenges set for today (Tuesday)?
I'm still feeling good about todays/yesterdays walk, Monday, it was my longest yet, I got out and away I went - I have found out that I don't like walking 'down hill' silly you'd think uphill would be worse. I want to walk 'up hill' to increase my work out, trouble is I have to come back hahaha
Wishing everyone a restful night and heres to a fresh new tomorrow xxx
.Hi,WhatHappened....I love reading your posts they are so nicely put...and I feel I am in the room with you!!
A lot of what you say I can recognise SO well,and is so sad because it happens so much,I can tell you.I remember someone telling me that and it helped in a strange way .
Maybe there might be a way where you can “introduce “your Mum again to your siblings?maybe a family fun tea out,or (and that is asking a lot with some!)a games together...something which they will all enjoy??and they can see her not as a “burden”.I am not saying this is what is happening with your family...but it does happen.
Try not to nag them or make them feel guilty,they will only dig their heels in and it will be worse for you in the end,They may even turn on you a bit,through their guilt.
It is tempting to go down the road(or in your case,up!)of getting all angry and bitter.That is so easy but doesnt do anyone any good in the end.Just know that you are doing your very best and you will ultimately have nothing to blame yourself for....
You have the added bonus of many more years being close to her.
What is my challenge for today?
hmmmm....well I have a number of jobs which tended to be put off while I was so poorly with this “bug” which need to gently be put to bed,one by ome...but the big challenge is to find a long enough slot in one day this week to go and see “Collette”.(a date with the Cinema-yes,I will dress up!!)
hugs....xx
A lovely visit from a dear friend and colleague this morning. Walked down to the aptly named Cake D'licious. Lovely scones. Then a trip to M and S to get ready meals for hubby. Now time to hang up the walking shoes for a week or two and pack my suitcase for op tomorrow. Will be in hospital for a few days but really lucky in that my ward is in the old private hospital and so own room with en suite.
Keep posting your lovely pics and I will be with you in spirit. I will be back posting my pics from walks in a few weeks.
Ooo ...hooe all goes well!!
Dont forget to pack some nice books and hobbies xxx
Will be thinking of you tomorrow , sweet dreams during the op, and let everybody spoil you! Take everything easy, we’ll all be looking forward to hearing that the beast is gone!
Lots of love and gentle hugs, NNxx
Life is like a boxing match, defeat is declared not when you fall ..... But when you refuse to stand up again ....... So, I get knocked down but I get up again. x
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