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Sorry Snowys Mum I just caught the flag to moderator bit I think. I didn't even realised I'd touched it. Sorry again. I only lurk on the site as I dont/ haven't had breast cancer mine is incurable kidney cancer but I will be getting blocked thats for sure. Sorry agsin

I love this. Is it for the children to do ? Everything in it is so worth doing to make other people happy.

Snowys Mum and Moomy your tales of teeth really made me giggle as I lay awake in the early hours yet again. I had managed to fall asleep listening to music but my husband woke me up coming to bed and then snoring so that was it. I was wide awake!

I have four cats, all former strays. Casper managed to get himself back in  through the cat flap for the first time yesterday. He was so surprised he ran round the house in excitement!

Have a good day everyone. My thoughts are with all those receiving results today xx

Oh dear, snoring husbands, Mag123, they have a lot to answer for! Mine snored hugely and we ended up in separate rooms! Yes we still loved each other, still made love, still kept a wonderful relationship going. But both of us slept much better….. When he lost so much weight with the kidney cancer his snoring virtually disappeared. 

Hugs xxx

Moomy, apologies in advance if this is too much sharing but I still can't face any intimacy. I still have a sore breast and 4 months on it is also still blue from the dye so I feel like a smurf. I don't feel very good about myself.

Never too much information! I know I’m only 2 weeks away from my op and I’m single as my marriage broke down 3 years ago but! Never have I ever been so glad that I don’t have to consider being intimate atm!! I’m 50 with the sex drive of a 100 year old I’m sure. And I’m so pleased I have no snoring to put up with either, honestly, I just couldn’t cope at all!! as I said it’s 2 weeks since my op and I’m still so sore, I’m frustrated at how slow recovery feels, I’m sick of feeling so feeble. I got my dog back yesterday, she’s been at the sitters so I’m going to take her for a walk shortly, see if I can manage not to kill myself, but it’s a glorious day out there and I’m going to seize it!! Xx

Oh bless you both, Mag123 and Anna12345, you both (and all who have similar problems) have my sympathy! I guess I was lucky in that my bc happened at an age when regular intimacy was easing, what with aching bones and reduced drive! But hubs was really good at reassuring me that he still found me attractive in spite of the scars and so on.

You do need to work at your self image of course, your inner self needs to realise that your outer shape doesn’t need to look ‘perfect’ even if it did before the bc. I have a major scoliosis and had to work hard on body image problems for many years even before I met hubs! 

i think I got a big boost (and some hard work!) from some counselling I had many years ago, (oddly as a result of work problems) and the counsellor once handed me a mirror and asked what I could see. Yes I came out with the trite rubbish, which I know we do. But he corrected me and said I needed to work towards seeing someone I liked and loved in that mirror. It gave me a huge jolt and I began to work at a better regard for who I am inside. It’s helped me through an awful lot in my life since. 

Big hugs xxx

Morning all 

Today is 2day …….2/2/22

Have a good day

Elliekate you must not have touched it. But don't worry, I probably need reporting to someone. Lurk all you like or join in, we are here for everyone and very welcome. Sorry to hear about the kidney cancer xxx

Don't get blocked!! Keep coming to see us xxx

Hi Moomy, I too have had body issues arising from my scoliosis. My hubby haas been so supportive throughout the process as well as saying the curvature is just part of me, it doesn't define me. Thank you for all your support, it is invaluable.kind regards

Jackie