AWAKE.........

Morning all.....So sorry to read that your sister-in-law lost her fight but perhaps for her the kindest option.....it doesn't sound as if there has been much quality in living for her for a while. But as with all death, it is those who are left that suffer most from the loss so my thoughts are for youGrogg...and her family.

LondonLass.....I am smiling and very pleased with myself. I am half way around my long loop walk, sitting on a seat at the top of the hill. It will be too hot later as there is no shade across the fields and temps are top 20's. I have attached the evidence. I am only allowed a 1km radius from home but if you look carefully, you can see the roofs of our hamlet in the centre of photo. The legs are mine!

So now to continue the loop. Another 2 km along the route to home.

Take care everyone. Special love to andyou are not on your own. Cyber hugs....and real thoughts!

Love Karen

seaspirit...with all you have been dealing with( incuding builders) it would be surprising if you did not blow a fuse occasionally . Be kind to yourself and work on spacing appointments....

Grogg , sorry to hear your news …..it is hard at any time , but maybe especially now ….

Toxophilite ….I empahise ….bags and,.  boxes piled as high as the shed roof , and tip not open ! I am sure it will look lovely when it is done !

best wishes to AK7 , hope things are slightly better ?

best wishes to those I missed...me x

Condolences Grogg

xx

Hi I'm new to the group but loving your posts.I had surgery(Right lumpectomy and sentinel node removal) a week ago.So still early on in this process again (Left lumpectomy and total node clearance 21 years ago followed by 5 weeks radiotherapy ) . Quite a lot of treatments have therefore changed!! I would welcome tips and suggestions of a practical nature and encouragement through these strange times. The plan ? is to have radiotherapy in 6-10 weeks subject to availability and then take letrozole again. Thank you all for your support and lovely pictures and sayings.

Thank you xx Hope you get that phone-call brfore yhe long weekend xx

Good Afternoon Fruit Loops,  

What a lovely day it is here, total blue sky with a few clouds in the distance.  

Excuse me while just have a quick rant.....

Well, I have spent most of the morning trying to speak with my mum, from engaged 'the caller knows you are waiting' to leaving an answerphone message......

Mum phones me back... you haven't phoned!
Me: I have you were engaged
Mum: you haven't phoned since
Me: I have, I have left an answerphone message.
Mum: I have listened to that, I want these phones taking out, I want simple ones like my old ones.
Me: You only have to press the green button press the number in and when finished talking press the red button to end the call - all the same as you did on your old phone....
Mum: What about the phone book??
Me: Do it the way you know, and I'll tell you about the 'phonebook' when you are comfortable to try using it' (I have already explained it to mum, but she is using this as the reason not wanting the phones arrrrrghhh

I replaced mums old BT Freestyle phones (playing up... okay, mum wasn't pressing the red button to end the call), replaced with new BT 4600..... same operation as the old ones, except I have put all the numbers into the 'phone book' - in case we get onto this stage argh.  Brother says to mum (over the phone), you can get phones that do the same a lot cheaper (yes, you can, put I wouldn't know how to help mum with that sort, I have got mum the same phone I have and the same as her friend, so we can both help).  Since brother said about the cheaper phone mum is trying everyway to have phones taken out and changed - and then it will end up she would want these ones back again - this is how she is and always as been!! arrrghhh. Plus I doubt if brother would get the phones for mum and definitely can't see him putting the number in the phonebook or knowing how to help!

Me: Mum please stop going on, I've tried to phone you most of the day, was looking forward to speaking to you and all you are doing is moaning, I don't need this, please lets move forward.
Mum: okay then, I'll speak to you later.
Me: Okay, love you (normally I would try and talk through this, I just couldn't and now I fee bad that I didn't - mum just knows how to wind me up)
Mum: love you 

I just needed to get this off my chest, I feel bad for sharing, I'm always the bad daughter, I just need to do a large and loud......
                          Aaaaaggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Hello Kwissy,

I'm so glad you found us, welcome to the mad house.  I hope all went well with your operation, make sure you do the gentle exercises, they may seem easy and a little pointless, but honestly whilst you are healing they really do help keep mobility.  Be kind to yourself, remember it may seem s little operation site/wound - but you have had major surgery, so definitely be kind and don't push yourself.
If you notice and redness or your boob feels hot to the touch or itchy - please phone your BCN this could be a sign of infection. Other than this, the operation site may not trouble you at all, with very little to no pain - whereas the sentinel node area might feel worse than the lumpectomy site, with a strange type of pain more of a very uncomfortable stinging sensation, this shouldn't last too long.

Feel free to ask any questions, the Fruit Loops on here are a mind full of information. 

Sending love to all xxxxx

Oh dear WhatHappened that sounds awfully like my m-I-l sadly gone now for a fair few years, but it did release hubs from quite a big challenge! She was disabled and deaf, and if she thought a thing it became fact!!!! Hubs has a brother but after he had her for Christmas one year, never again! 

Hope you manage to sort out the phone system! 
Hugs xxx

Owwww moomy, I think the phone is find, she just wants to try the cheaper type!

I love my dear mum with all my heart, she is the nicest, kindest person you could ever want to meet, but... I get the brunt of the bad and of course the best of the good.  My dear sister and brother both seem to be wrapped up in 'their world' and forget the mum is nearly 90! 

Ps.  Mum has just phoned.... have you just phoned me? This is mum's way of moving forward, like nothing has happened - this is fine by me.... I do need to find a way of not biting and not getting myself wound up.... deep breath in and hold ;) 

xxxxx

Hello Whats Happened, Thankyou for your kind comments.Pleased to say at the moment  I have no sign of any infection, and have been doing the exercises religiously since first day post op. I remember well how important they are and my aim is to have full mobility in my right shoulder.Lumpectomy site is not causing any trouble and is a lovely shade of pale yellow(but I do bruise very easily.Node site is causing the strange sensation you descibe so well but no other problems.Thankfully no drains or stitches to be removed as the consultant used superglue.Is this standard practice now?I am trying to be kind to myself and the private hospital where I was treated as a day patient were wonderful. Thank you for your understanding.

  Sorry that you had phone problems with your Mum todayand even though it was very frustrating for you it did remind me of our conversations within the family some years ago.My sister and I had a similar conversation !bout my brother!! Maybe ,dare I say,its a man thing.Good thing this community is available to let off steam.

Hi Kwissy just wanted to say.....

Hope you enjoy being part of the Fruit Loops! Looking forward to getting to know you.

WhatHappened sounds like a stressful day. But really pleased your mum called you and you were able to move on!

Today I received a letter saying I should stay in until June 30th as I am vulnerable!!  Must admit I did laugh when it said I should distance myself from anyone else in the house!!  hmmmmm could be 'interesting'! Mum and Dad could you please move aside so I can use the kitchen!!! As I've survived this long, I think I will continue hugging my parents! After all it's their house!!

Must admit I felt quite sad when I read the message as June 30th seems a million miles away  Wish this bloody virus would just Fuck off!! (Sorry for the bad language) I shall take myself to the naughty chair! Xxx