Hi I am new to the online group arena. I have stage 4 Colorectal Cancer. I feel bad because I am 66 years old and I suppose what you would say is 'I have had a good inning's. There are so many people so much younger than me. I feel for them.
I suppose i just came on here because i have kept the details of my diagnosis to myself. My family know i have Cancer but not stage 4. I needed a space to speak to others who understand.
I have had 2 rounds of chemo the oncologist says 6 moths without treatment and 18 months to two years with treatment. I am processing this myself before i tell my 5 adult children and husband. They will need support when they find out.
Welcome to the community. 
️ I’m quite new here too. I joined after my mum was diagnosed with Stage 4 colorectal cancer in April 2026. She had only just turned 67. She has three small spots in her liver and a small volume of cancer in her lungs, although we were never told the exact sizes or the number of lung spots. Thankfully, she’s never had any symptoms related to the liver or lung spread.
I’m on the other side of the journey, as the daughter. I’m the one she leans on the most, and I won’t pretend it’s been easy to come to terms with. I just try my best to be the person she can rely on every day.
My mum has just finished five sessions of radiotherapy and we’re now waiting for her follow-up appointment with the oncologist in three weeks’ time. The plan is to start chemotherapy afterwards, although we’re still waiting for a date. It feels like there’s so much waiting in between each step.
I completely understand why you’re taking time to process everything before telling your family. We all cope differently, and only you know when the time feels right. If I can share one thought though—if I were your daughter, I would want to know. Not because I would want to treat you differently, but because I’d want to make the most of our time together and be there to support you. I’d hate to look back later wondering if there were things I could have done with my mum or ways I could have supported her more. But that’s just my perspective, and everyone’s family is different.
This community has been such a comfort to me. Speaking with people who truly understand what this journey is like has given me strength and hope. My mum chose not to know her prognosis and I respect that.
I’ve also read so many stories here of people doing much better than expected. One thing I’ve learned from people here is that statistics are just numbers,they don’t tell your individual story. Everyone responds differently to treatment, and there is always room for hope. Hope you are coping ok with chemo.
Sending you and your family lots of strength. You’re not alone here. ️
