I just need someone to talk to

You poor love.

Terminal cancer doesn’t necessarily mean he’ll be gone soon. If I were you right now, I would definitely allow myself to scream and cry. Please read the posts on here from family members and partners and try to join the groups for spouses in your position too. My heart is with you sweetie. Being strong doesn’t mean you can’t be emotional and sad.

Take Care

Nic x

Hi Freddi 

My mum lived with stage 4 bowel cancer for 15 years . It was in her liver and lung .

I think it’s learning to live with uncertainty, learning to live around hospital appointments and still remain connected to your life at the same time . Plus getting to grips with supporting your husband as he manages side effects . It will amaze you as you do develop a routine .

A patient told me to keep your head where your body is and not allow it to go off to the worst case outcome . Some people do very well on treatment and it opens up other opportunities. Not everyone gets good outcomes but slowly but surely things have improved. They are however very guarded until they see how each individual responds .

If you need to see your GP  it can be very helpful . Your husband needs you strong but you also matter and it’s important to see to your own health too .

Have time with your own friends for some support . 
We are also here to support you .

Take care Court 

Thank you both for your kind words. Unfortunately his cancer has spread to several places in his liver and the consultant said that he's not strong enough for chemo etc.

Good morning Freddi,

I am sorry to read about your sad news, it’s only natural that you would want to scream and cry. It’s always a massive shock being diagnosed with cancer or having your partner, such as yours and mine diagnosed with terminal cancer.

My advice would be to explore all the options and avenues, does your husband have a plan in place from his oncologist? Sometimes you just have to be your own advocates, ask all the questions you need to at the consultations.

Stay off searching any stats on Google, because as everyone says they are vastly out of date.

My husband has been classed as incurable and inoperable for 2 years now, he has just started new treatment as the last chemo/targeted therapy stopped working.

I am probably one of the world’s worst over thinkers, but we both refuse to let this dreadful disease rule every second of our waking lives. As someone said to us once, you can sit at home and plan the funeral or you can make the best of what time you have left together and to be honest there could be a far greater time together than you think. Two years ago, I didn’t think my husband would still be here with me, but so far he still is (cancer is progressing) and we are still getting out and about enjoying that extra time together, although the last lot of treatment was very time consuming and brutal we are grateful.

Take care x

Sorry to read this, I didn’t see this before I posted below! X