Hi everyone!
I’ve joined this forum because my mum has been diagnosed with colon cancer which has spread to her liver! Still trying to wrap my head around that bit………. She was due to start chemo today, however she hasn’t been able to eat without pain for nearly 2 weeks. Her cancer nurse told her last Thursday that they want to postpone the chemo that was due to start today, and give her a ileostomy instead (sorry if that’s spelt wrong) to build up her strength ready to start the chemo. Mum was told last week that if she had pain, nausea etc she must go in to the surgical assessment unit!!
So sure enough, Friday morning, mum had pain. Dad took her to the hospital where she was kept on the ward until Saturday night, when they did the ileostomy. She’s recovering well, but obviously pain etc! She’s dreading having to change the bag (which she hasn’t been able to do herself yet). I’m sorry for babbling on, but if I feel as emotional and scared as I do, I can’t imagine how mum must be feeling!
Hi Susan, I’m also already a member of that group ️ I had a mooch through the site last night and joined all the groups I thought would be beneficial
️ I was a carer for 10 years so I already know how to change it, clean it, re attach etc! I find some comfort in that I already know about stoma’s and everything that goes with it. But at the same time, I hate it. Because I know how challenging (emotionally) more than anything that this will be for my mum. It breaks my heart.
Sadly, this will be her new ‘normal’ forever but we make the most of a ‘shit’ situation right?! Xx
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