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Hi Sam2023 sorry to hear what you and your husband are going through. Has he had a check up recently with the colorectal team? If not, it might be a good idea to contact them. It doesn’t sound right that he should sleep that much, and although it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s anything bad, I would try and rule that out. 

it also could be depression so perhaps encourage him to make an appt at the doctors. It sounds like it’s affecting your quality of life and life is far too short for that. 

i wish you both the best of luck 

Thank you so much Shellbell24! You just helped me to make up my mind as I was not sure if I was making a fuss out of nothing. I will call the colorectal team tomorrow. Yes, It is affecting my life. Of course, I am very happy to help him no matter what effort I need to make, but it is difficult if he refuses me to. I am crying all the time not knowing what to do. thanks again. xx

 really hope he accepts help but perhaps it’s worth trying to organise doing things together to get him out of bed in the mornings. also, it might be worth asking about MacMillan counselling, I got referred by my colorectal team & it’s been helping me. Sometimes what weve been through can hit you after all the treatment has finished. 
good luck 

Hi Sam2023 

We have a helpline here Sam2023 they could chat through the various issues with you and see if they can get some advice to you about helping your husband.

It is completely confidential. 
0808 808 0000

Is your husbands GP any help in getting some blood work done to eliminate any obvious issues . They are also able to help with the mental health aspects .

If you feel you are hitting a wall it’s time to act .

Take care ,

Court 

Hi Court, 

My husband and I talked to a lady on the helpline together. She was very helpful. She suggested we that do not ignore these symptoms and we should call my husband's doctor. It sounded like something the doctor should know about. My husband is happy to do that tomorrow. I am much happier now. At least we are facing and tackling it. Thank you and Shellbell24 so much! Everyone is so supportive! :) xx

Great . I am so glad you found that helpful .

Sometimes confirmation from someone else is all that is needed .

All the very best .

Court