Overwhelmed by Partner's Diagnosis

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Hi everyone. My partner has been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer, all we know so far that there is a mass in his Sigmoid which has spread to his liver. We were only told on Monday and have to wait until the MDT meeting next week to find out what treatment his options are. We're both feeling so overwhelmed but trying to act normal in front of our 9 yr old daughter who doesn't yet know. My emotions have been up and down, I'm desperate to hear about some positive outcomes to help me stay positive if anyone can help me?

Thanks, Lucy.

  • Hi  ,

    So sorry to hear of your husbands diagnosis, you have come to the right place for support and advice. 

    I am 3 years in now, I also had spread to the liver, in fact, it was pretty pickled and had a very poor prognosis. However, a good response to chemo got me to a liver op and I've since had two bowel/pelvis ops.  

    The wait for results and a plan is horrible, just try to get through it one day at a time and you will feel much better once a plan is in place.  

    Whatever you do, don't google, the stats on there are so out of date and they clump together such a wide range of patients.

    The best advice I was given which I still adhere to now is to exercise, anything will do, even a brisk walk.  

    You can have a look at my journey if you click on my name, I hope it gives you some hope.

    Michelle 

  • Hi Michelle. Thanks so much for reaching out and I'm pleased you've had success with your treatment. I'll be sure to have a read through your journey. Thanks again. Lucy x

  • My mum is 14 years into a stage 4 diagnosis with a spread to her liver . Not great having to go in and out of treatment but she keeps carving out a good life and grateful she has  navigated through with her fantastic team .

    Her liver has been clear since 2010 . Lots can be done for the liver and whilst it’s not always curable it can very well be treatable .

    Mum has enjoyed many many good times since diagnosis.

    But she has to keep Pressing through .

    Send you and your husband our very best wishes . My mum’s grandson was nine when she was first diagnosed. Coming up 24 now . 
    Hold on tight and ask anything you like . We are here to support you .

    Court 

    Helpline Number 0808 808 0000

  • Thank you Court, that's really encouraging. Wishing your Mum all the best xx️