Feeling lonely

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Hello,

I was diagnosed with Bowel Cancer in December 2022, I have gone through chemo and radiotherapy and now waiting for scans to see where we go from here.

Now that all my treatment has finished and I’m just waiting I’m struggling with all the time I have to think and feel very lonely. I have a good support network of friends but I am a single mum and have gone through this with out the support of a partner.

Thanks for listening

  • Really sorry to hear that you are feeling lonely, I know how you feel. Just try and reach out and keeping talking.

    Take care.

  • Hey Crunchie

    im sorry you’re feeling lonely. You’ve been through a lot and must feel apprehensive about the next steps 

    Macmillan give six session of CBD to people with cancer if you feel that may help 

    Chat here if that helps. 
    Sending you a hug 

    Ann
     ‍Art

  • Hi, I had bowel cancer back Oct 2021. Had 5 radiotherapy sessions in December 2021, followed up by 4 sessions of chemotherapy with medicines to eat at home 14 days capsules 1-week break. Then operate in June 2022. Oh yes, I ended up hospitalized once in 2022 due to a diabetic coma before a cancer operation. Then started using insulin injections. The tumour is out in operation. But they gave me a stoma bag to live with for a year. 

    Now June 2023 after a year stoma bag reverse surgery was done and I'm back to work with frequent toilet visits. 

    Soon everything is over Believe me we are human beings we will forget not easily but will do it gradually. 

    Everything will be fine with the passage of time. There are some mobile apps to chat with random people on video calls that's a good time pass as they don't know you they don't judge you. And you feel you don't have any problem. It's all a mind game. 

  • Welcome  . 
    You have done incredibly well to face all that and see to your family and you are only human .

    Macmillan also has a helpline and available if you ever need to chat it through . They may also be able to put you in touch with some local resources . Sometimes one small step starts you in a new path . 
    However we are always around here too so join in the chat . We also have a catch up thread and you can link in there too . It can be very therapeutic .

    Don’t lose sight of what you have gone through . A very strong person to endure all that and you are allowed to get support too .

    Take care ,

    Court 

    Helpline Number 0808 808 0000

  • Hi Crunchie!

    Welcome to the forum as the rest have said, just keep coming on here and talking and vent. let off steam etc if need be. I have been here since last May. I came here because I was caring for my late husband who had bowel cancer and everyone is a great support. My husband passed just in June this year after a two year battle which decided he wasn't winning but he put up one hell of a fight. I'm staying here because my sister is now facing the same fate as my husband only I have been told her bowel cancer is not as extensive as my husband's was but here I am going through it again and it's only been just over two months since my husband passed. The others will probably along to introduce themselves at one point and you will get all their back stories. We are all here for you. Take Care. 

    Vicky x

  • Hi Crunchie I remember feeling abandoned when my chemo and radiotherapy finished. I was told the treatment continues to work and I would have surgery after a further 3 months, and that’s what happened. In between this there were blood tests and further scans and appointments, so I was soon reassured. I hope that helps even just a little bit.