Hi, my mum at age 81 was diagnosed with bowel cancer T4 in Nov 22. She is unable to have surgery due to age and heart condition and they have not offered her chemotherapy as this would shorten her life. The tumor was found after camera procedure which should have been done as an urgent procedure in may 22 but was never done and we were not told that is was needed urgently. She had the procedure done in Nov 22 and this is when the tumor was found. Since oncology referral was done we have had no contact by anyone and just left to get in with it. She is now I hospital for the 5th time since May 22 with delirium. She has lost 4 stone I weight since May 22 and now has to walk with a frame. Had a phone call today from hospital as they are trying to discharge her as she is medically fir but not mentally fit. We have good days and bad and very bad days. She has suicidal comments but they are still trying to discharge her. I have my dad who is 84 at home and she was his main carer. Infact they they try to look after each other but it's getting harder. I need help as it's starting g to affect my mental health but don't now where to turn.
