Time I left this group.

Hi,

Please don’t leave the group you are entitled to be here like the rest of us, What did you get a couple of slaps for and from who?

Hi its me.

I feel I have to apologise sincerely. I had a need for a positive thread and Marianne26 didn’t realise or read the thread and added her concerns for me to think about  This caused me to react

I realise that Marianne has a lot to contend with and have connected on her thread about her ill health.
This has blown out of proportion and I now realise positive threads can upset people. so I will not do it again 

Sorry to all that I have upset 

Take care 

I think you are both great people and great contributors to the group and would sincerely hate for either of you to go .

The positive thread is a great idea . It’s just a difficult time for people and communication is hard at the best of times and forums can sometimes be difficult when trying to communicate how you feel and to understand what others needs are at any given time .

I am not a moderator here , Macmillan has paid people to do that so just speaking as a forum contributor and hope this is something that can be worked through . We need each other here , always . Sometimes it just hurts inside .

I do hope we can all stay and keep the support going for each other .

Court 

That’s really sweet Court.

I had a really bad day yesterday and I think I should have put my phone down rather than overreacting to something that I should have ignored. This started a chain of events which has caused another member to feel upset. 

People need to feel safe here. I am devastated if I caused someone here not to feel welcome. My mental health is fragile enough I don’t want to add guilt to that! 

I’ve had wonderful support in all of my groups and my stoma group have given me such confidence

Court you’re amazing  

Thanks for all your support and advice 

I Totally understand it’s a tough place for you just now and there is absolutely nothing here that can’t be resolved . .

Macmillan would want you all to feel supported and everyone’s needs met . Some days are just rubbish and hurt more than others . But tomorrow is a new day and we can resolve and move forward .

Court 

Oh ann please dont stop positive threads.we all need some positivity at times

Kath

I don’t know Kath 

positivity angers some I’ve had it all my life  

The children I worked with loved it  The staff not so much  They used to look at me strange! 

I can’t function in complete negativity I’ve always tried to lift and support but at the moment I’ve fallen out of my bubble. 

Hopefully I’ll find it tomorrow xx

Thanks Kath 

I think I'm still here - But just like I can't change my 'armchair' Profile Pic.I also don't think I've been able to leave the group as yet...That's me & Tech!

If I am still here, this is for Artsie & court who are both wonderful contributors on this forum.

I am sincerely sorry for bursting the bubble on your very positive post yesterday Ann. By saying that I thought 'Lung Nodules were slow growing.' was intended as some form of positivity...However, I realise now, that it was the wrong reaction in the context of your humorous ripost with others. I'm not a negative person. I'm very sociable & good humoured, but I'm not so good at written humour - I prefer one to ones with friends. & so, your initial post was not one that I should have replied to, & I sincerely apologise for that.

Love Marianne

Hi Marianne 

Im delighted you’re still here. I was devastated that you wanted to leave. I have sent you a private message of apology too. 
We need to stick together with this 

I’ve always annoyed people with my smile and positive attitude and I’ve still got that with Cancer. However recently I’ve been low and have read negative responses that have hit me.That is not you ! 
So that’s why I wrote that thread and I know that you read my part but knew my results and you were being caring 

Please stay here. It’s a great place to put up any thoughts. Negative to slightly not so positive is my forte   
But maybe not for a few days 

Take care 

Well obviously I am still here! Thank you for your understanding Ann. I totally know where you are coming from, having been diagnosed with lung nodules a year after my Op. & I very much hope that you will get the right treatment to shrink/ eradicate them.

My only reason for feeling low in the past few days - is the possibility that I have been suffering from Covid, or some other virus, whilst living alone.

Yes, others loved your humorous post & you must keep them coming!! & Yes, we totally need to stick together & support each other - & this site allows us to do so.

Much love

Marianne x