I was told I had rectal cancer in May 2022 I received radiology and chemotherapy for 25 days In August 2022 the idea was to reduce the tumor in size then operate the treatment did it’s job so I could have surgery . But my wife died of the same cancer after having a bag fitted 18 months previously I assisted her with the bag as she struggled with it ,
when they told me my operation would entail a bag I refused mainly due to my age I’m 86 years old and I have numerous ailments including asbestosis so I said no operation my chances of surviving such an operation were no to good any way and I did not want to be a burden to my family at 86 I’ve had a wonderful life the last 40 years were the best a man could wish for so I’m now content with whatever life has lined up for me
Hi Willboy
Im so sorry for the loss of your wife. It seems awful that you have the same cancer.
I think the decision not have the operation has come from your experience with your wife and you seem to have the knowledge of the outcome to make your choice.
I had an Ileostomy and I was actually much better off afterwards as the pressure I had vanished.
I fully understand what you’re saying about you’ve had a wonderful life. I feel pretty much the same. I’m sixty eight and have an appointment with a lung consultant at the end of the month.
I am now reversed and bowel cancer free but I am not sure I’m up for more treatment if it’s spread.
I will consider what’s offered and see where it takes me
take care.
Hope that you have a good Christmas x
Ann
