Mum no longer wants chemo

Hi JulesC. Personally I agree with you. You all obviously want your mum to have the best chance of preventing a reoccurence but the tumour has been removed and this is a final blast of weed killer to zap anything that might or might not have escaped. 3.9% is not a huge benefit and it sounds like the chemo is more debilitating than beneficial at the moment. 
I think the choice should definitely be your mums as it is her life that is being affected by all this - she’s given it a go and you can’t ask for more than that. 

Take care

Karen x

Hi Karen, thank you so much. You have really reassured me that she is doing the right thing for her. At least she has had some. It is such a worrying time as you know. If she was younger, I would have tried to have persuaded her, but at her age I just want her to make the most of life. Thank you again!

Take care, Julie x 

Hi Julesc

I had two cycles of infusions and tablets and couldn't tolerate the infusions so had a further 6 cycles of just tablets and the effects (whilst they vary with everybody) weren't so bad, although I was a little queasy at times.

I agree that it's your mums choice, and know that my family supported my desisions throughout.

All the best

Richard

A toughie, but your mum is the one suffering with the chemo, and she has tried. 2 cycles are better than none. The gain is low, so it should be her decision to stop. I agree with Karen, everything has been tried. Quality of life is so important. Take care all

Hi JulesC

Illness brings such difficult decisions into our lives and even although the rest of your family find it hard to agree with your mum’s choices I know its the longing to keep her in the best health possible that motivates them . They are coming from a good place .

However it is entirely your mum’s decision and quality of life matters as much as quantity or more  . My dad has just passed and we were confronted with difficult questions around quality of life .Not knowing where that line would be for dad but trying our best to figure it out .

Your mum has been able to express her desires and wishes . That is priceless and if that was my mum’s choice I would embrace it and go forward with her choice .

We will also be confronted with a similar situation with my mum who may need further treatment. I will fully stand by her decision whatever that may be as I want her days at this age to be the best we can provide for her .

You are able to see that and it is time to move forward and give her the quality she wants . She has had some treatment and it may have been enough to resolve any potential issues .

Send your mum our best wishes and many good days ahead .

Court 

Hi I agree with you and your Mum. 
My sister in law decided against chemo as hers was 1% and would damage her bone density which was weak. Also the chemo offered was the same as they offered her late hubby. 
She made the right choice and I think you both have 

I know they blast the young with chemo but I’m not sure it’s beneficial when we are older. 
Your mum has tried it which is brilliant as she knows exactly how she feels. 

Hi JulesC

This must be so difficult for you and your family, but I agree with you that it should be your mum's decision and her quality of life is so important. 

Take care xxx