People say I am Lucky....

Hi Lauren87

Sharing your pain allows us to join your journey - thank you for your honesty. None of us on this site would choose to be here. And the travails we’ve endured have been challenging. But the pain is slightly eased if we can show understanding and care for and to each other. I hope you will find that here - please stick with us. 

Hi Lauren87

Welcome to the forum . You are for sure a very skilled communicator. However I don’t think going through all that and also during a pandemic is something of good fortune. I know you are grateful for good clinical outcomes , a good team and robust scanning but none of us would wish that for you especially when you are young and should be enjoying other aspects of life .

I am also sorry you don’t have the comfort of your mum .

However I am glad you have shared how you feel and sincerely hope there are better days ahead .

I think you can suddenly find yourself sharing very difficult aspects of your life with people who don’t have insight or the skills to handle the sensitive information so they try and pull a positive out . Even although their thoughts are good it can leave you cold . So many people here have experienced this !

Take special care ,

Court 

Hi Lauren87 ,

thank you for sharing this and totaly empathise with everything you’ve said . I’ve been told the same , but I don’t think people understand ( apart from the ones who’ve been told they have cancer ) we live with that diagnosis everyday even if the prognosis is good and you’ve been given the all clear . I’m sending you a big hug and to say you will find happiness again . Time heals and it does get easier . We aren’t the same person  after treatment but you will find a new you and you will come to except and love her , take care XX  

Hi Nelly B

I had not thought about it that way, how can you be the same person as our life experiences  are of course what shape us.

Appreciate your comments

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Why is it easier to share such personal aspects of my life with strangers ? 

thank you for commenting 

It has taken me a while to understand I need to surround myself with people in a similar situation to learn why I look at this situation the way I do 

thank you for commenting 

It is easier to share with us, as we have been there, and walk the same walk. Putting ones thought on paper, is cathartic and helps you and others, particularly as you have a good way with words. You work out which of your friends, and indeed family, try and understand, and those that are trite. It's a journey no one is prepared for. 

Take care, we are all here for you.

It is so odd but I think we can all relate !

Morning Gemmary,

Its interesting isnt it, that when aspects of your life are not going so well, you have people would as you correctly say you thought were your friend and you can rely on just disappear into the wide world, and of course that is their choice, but is it wrong to then become hardened and not want to rely on other as it is easier to go through this process alone then to be let down

Thank you for your comment x

Morning Lauren87, I understand. I try not to become hardened and try and let them go, they may indeed have their own issues I don't know about, particularly now with covid around. But yes it is then easier to walk alone, but try not to exclude everyone. I have found the last 2 years much harder with long covid, than the previous one with diagnosis and chemo. People do not have the same empathy as it is the unknown. They recovered in 2 or 3 weeks, why didn't I?? So yes I am accepting that I walk more alone. Except maybe on here. There is a huge overlap between cancer and long covid, and I find help for both, and friends who understand, on this online forum.

Take care, remember people are on here to both help and be helped. It is a safe space. ((Hugs))