Dad has bowel cancer

Hi, , take a big deep breath!!! Bowel cancer is slow growing and has a good cure rate. Do you know where the cancer is, e.g. rectum, and what the treatment plan is? Then the good people on here can help you to help him. Sending ((hugs)) to you both.

Hi Piggy90, I'm so sorry to hear about your mum and dad. You must be feeling very scared and worried. My dad has been through this and I understand your fears about it spreading. It might be helpful for you to ask your dad for his specialist nurse's number so that you could give her a ring and ask her any questions you have. I know that I needed to know more about what was happening than my dad wanted to discuss and the nurse was able to explain things in the detail I needed to feel reassured. Take one day at a time and know you are not alone. Sending you a big hug

Hi . If your dad was diagnosed at the end of feb then I would have thought that he’d have had scans to check for spread by now? Has he mentioned any staging to you? The operation will remove the tumour and surrounding area and that will be sent off for testing. He is probably losing weight through the stress and worry and will probably lose some more in hospital but you’ll be able to feed him up once he comes home.

Im sorry to hear that you’ve lost your mum and i wonder if your dad is trying not to worry you although sometimes not knowing can be more worrying. Bowel cancer is very treatable nowadays - I’m nearly 5.5 years clear now. Could you sit down with your dad and explain that you’d like to know a bit more? If he doesn’t know - there can be a lot of information to take in at some of these meetings - then perhaps you could do like teacakes suggests and ring your dads nurse with his permission?

Hope his op goes well and please keep us posted

Take care

Karen x

Hi Gemmary. As far I am aware it is in the lower bowel. He’s told us it will be the op on Friday to remove some of the bowel and then it all depends on his recovery as to what happens next.  X

Hi Teacakes. Thank you, I think I might try and get his nurses number and see from there. X

Hi Karen. I’m not sure if he’s had any other scans since, he hasn’t really said much about it. I think I’m just more scared seeing his loose weight as I saw my mum loose weight too. I know although it’s cancer it’s 2 separate things. I guess I’m just overthinking things. X