hello, I'm new here.
found out two days ago that my mum has colon cancer, around the sigmoid, waiting to hear for MRI results to see if its spread before talking about treatments.
Her mum died of cervical cancer when my mum was 13 and my mums grandma had breast cancer that spread to everywhere else.
Im just very worried about her and scared for her. I love my mum so much and we have the best relationship.
I want her to know that I'm here for her but I'm not sure how to show that. Im not great at showing emotions around people, I prefer to cry or get angry in a room by myself.
I try to get conversation going and just act like its a normal day but I don't know if that is a good idea, should I talk to her about it even though it might upset her?
my mum and I have this thing where we watch a new tv show together and really get into the show, at the moment its Moon Knight on Disney plus. we laugh and talk about what happens in the show, and then we get on with the day.
I guess I'm just asking for advice on how to support her as she's going through this.
Hi ,
Welcome to the forum . So sorry to hear about your mum .
I will be honest . At the beginning I think I got it more wrong than right .
https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/stories-and-media/booklets/talking-with-someone-who-has-cancer
I have linked in a booklet you might like to read . I cried in the car . Researched and tried to engage her in what I found out when all she really wanted was some normalcy. The first few weeks we tried our best then we just got on with it by letting her set the tone . Sounds a great idea to keep watching the shows . If I was going back I would approach it differently. I would just come out and ask her what would be best in terms of support , offer support but also my intention to keep it normal too . Let them take the lead and follow their cues .
You clearly care and show up and trust me that goes a long way !
Take care ,
Court
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