Hi everyone. I’m new here. Had the awful news that everyone dreads. Head is an absolute shed. Struggling to get my head round things. Think nervous exhaustion has kicked in now. Is it always like this ?
I know the news comes as a shock and you will probably get fed up of people saying "things will get better" or "you will be fine". But the thing is it will.
People on here have been great and informative. They have all been through similar experiences, so when they tell you their stories and how they are now coping or even got over things it should give you hope.
You can also speak to nurses on here to discuss the way you feel and they will explain what you can/should do. Give them a try.
I only joined a few days ago and believe me I too have been through a lot in a short time. (You should be able to read my original message on the bowel cancer site). I can honestly say I have never been so scared in all my life and when I heard the word cancer it conjoured up so many bad thoughts I thought I wouldn't be able to cope. But I am coping and I am slowly getting there.
Feel free to talk anytime and ask as many questions as you need to. We are all here for you and have all been where you are now.
It’s nice to hear that London. People are talking common sense to me all the time but I’m struggling to take it in. It’s just such a shock. It’s comforting to think that things will get better. I want to live a better life than I was. I was always anxious and nervous of doing things but this has already changed me from that road
Hello Wut and a warm welcome to the forum from me, but so sorry you find yourself here.
This first part of waiting for all tests and results to come in and getting a treatment plan in place is the worst time and extremely stressful. Once you get a treatment plan in place you will feel better - honestly, even though it's hard to imagine at the moment.
Keep posting and updating us and we'll help you through this tough time.
Wut it's fine and normal to be scared, anxious and nervous. What you have been told is scary.
It's hard to take in all the information you are being given by everyone, but what I found helped me was writing down everything I felt and any questions I wanted answered. That way you don't forget anything and you have a record of your feelings.
Then when you are ready speak to your doctor or nurses on here. Make sure you tell them everything and they can then hopefully reassure you it's totally normal to feel how you are feeling plus they will answer your questions.
It really is good to talk especially if your mind is racing and you can't sleep. I still find the nights the worse time as that's when I think about everything as it's so quiet.
My brother is suffering with anxiety and has given me relevent and interesting info about General anxiety disorder. I’ve started putting things into practice which seems to help but yer - the nights, now there something else. 4am mine starts with a passion
thanks for the welcome. Can’t believe how stressful it really is. It seems a lonely place, trying to deal with it even though I’ve had loads of support from family and friends. I feel as though I’m not appreciating them enough because I get wrapped up in my own nightmare
Hi and a warm welcome from me too. Yes it’s a hell of a shock isn’t it? The next couple of weeks will be a flurry of scans, tests and meetings but once you have a plan in place then things will honestly feel a bit better.
Please stay away from google - it’s scary, misleading and out of date - you can ask anything you want on here and we’ll give you honest answers. We’re all at different stages of treatment or recovery and, if you click on people names, then their profile may show their journey so far.
I can send you a link to a booklet about starting out if you want? Some people prefer to wait until their meeting whereas others like a heads up - it’s entirely up to you.
Hi kareno62. Thanks for the welcome. Yer I’m staying off Google. Been warned all about it. I’m ok about the link at the moment. I need to wait a little longer,but thanks for that
It is a lonely place isn't it and unbelievable stressful, that's why this forum is such a lifeline. Almost everyone on here has either been there themselves or with a close relative and they understand where you're coming from.
yes it traumatic. It’s 7 days since they found sumat and I’m only just getting back to me feet. Like being hit by a train. Hopefully I can get back up and move forward
