Feeling lost and confused

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Hi, I've been a silent bystander for a few months now....but have reached a point where I need to start to talk!

I've got bowel cancer for the second time only just after getting the 5 year all clear....it's come as a huge shock, I've started treatment but can't believe I'm going through it all again

I'm only 39, I'd found a new chap who completed my life jigsaw and suddenly the rug has been pulled from under my feet. He's struggling to cope and has said he'll stop with me until I'm better but doesn't know about after the cancer? This has added to my stress of under going the chemo, waiting for surgery and stressing about the future....my mood is low, I'm a mess, chemo is taking its toll on me and I feel very isolated, I've no family and only a small circle of friends who are probably more colleagues than friends....I'm normally such a happy sparky person but all this seems to have disappeared....I know this is all as to be expected but it's still a shock to be in this predicament again xx

FormerMember over 3 years ago

Hi Twiggy

I only plucked up the courage to talk tonight but it feels great to actually speak to people who know what I'm/we are going through. I wish I had done it earlier.

You say you have been through this before so you know you are strong. You can do this. And you can do this on your own if you have to.

You will have support from the people on here. The few people I have spoken to tonight are very friendly, helpful and supportive. I'm sure they will be to you too now you have opened up.

Feel free to chat anytime and also remember there are nurses and councillors on here who will also offer you help and advice.

Keep smiling. You will get your spark back I'm sure.

London x

Twiggy Bean over 3 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Thanks London! I'm glad you have been able to speak up too!

court over 3 years ago

Hi Twiggy Bean

Welcome to the forum . You are going through a lot but I am

glad you have also reached out especially if your support at home is more limited . To be fair some life long partners struggle for a bit to come to terms with the changes that bowel cancer brings and I struggle to even write that as it’s all so unfair but it is a reality that some people are dealing with . However what matters to us right now is getting the right support around you and reducing the sense of isolation this diagnosis can bring .

Macmillan has teamed up with Bupa to offer six free counselling sessions . Our helpline staff can assist on 0808 808 0000. They can also chat in person around the issues you have raised . We have email support and telephone buddy systems if any suit or appeal to you also .

And you have us !

Take care ,

Court

Helpline Number 0808 808 0000

Twiggy Bean over 3 years ago in reply to court

Morning Court, thank you lovely! I hate saying life's unfair as I try to be grateful of everything in front of me but you are right, sometimes it just isn't fair! And yes he is struggling, it's hard seeing the tiredness and stress on his face knowing I'm the cause of it.....I hope we are strong enough to get through all this! But it is good to know the support is on here, thank you and I will investigate about the sessions as well....thank you! Xx