Newly diagnosed partner

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Hi, my husband has just been diagnosed with bowel cancer. He's to have chemo and then an operation to have chunk of bowel taken out, he will nerd a stoma . He's had all his scans.. Due to see chemo nurse shortly. He's not told anyone other than me and won't consider telling his family until after xmas, I wasn't able to be with him for his results as I had to care for our young son. I have no idea what or when we will decide to tell him about something going on with daddy but his old enough to ask questions. .I know we are at the beginning of the journey. I am scared and the months ahead seem so daunting. I am sure I will have many questions. I just want know he will be ok. I'm also scared of hearing things that will just scare me.

Katz51 over 3 years ago

All the best for you all.it is a worrying time but you can get through it.take it one step at a time.

As for telling other people.,I personally just gave them the bare essentials then left it up to the individual to ask for further info.that way you find out who are your real friends and who is concerned for you .I only lost one friend who wasnt interested.

Do click on my name to read a short bio of my journey.if any of it seems relevant dont hesitate to ask any questions,nothing is too small or silly.

Again all the best going forward

Kath

Katz51 over 3 years ago

Forgot--dont be afraid or worried about a stoma.they are really ok and once you get into a routine easy to look after.mine has been no bother and most of the time I forget I have it.

Artsie over 3 years ago

Hi. It’s really worrying I know but the comforting thought is he’s having treatment. I couldn’t wait to get it out of me. Don’t read anything through Dr GOOGLE. I started looking and terrified myself until I found this group. I’ve got a stoma and like Katz51 says it’s no problem. To be honest Im so much better with the stoma and without the cancer.

Ann
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Kat55 over 3 years ago in reply to Katz51

Thank you. I will read through your bio. Its very reassuring to have this place and hear other people's journeys. Thank you for responding

Kat55 over 3 years ago in reply to Artsie

Thank you. I think with all of this it's the unknown that is the challenge so an insight for those who have journeyed through is so valuable. Can't thank you all enough

Kareno62 over 3 years ago

Hi Kat55 and a warm welcome to the board from me. Yes it’s a scary journey but it is doable. Break it into stages - get the chemo out of the way then think about the operation. Please stay away from google - it is scary and out of date in places - you can ask anything you like on here. Bowel cancer is notoriously slow growing but very treatable - I’m now 5 years clear as are my 2 friends that I made during my treatment.
Im not sure how old your son is but the link below has done good ideas and pictures which might help you explain things to him?

https://www.bupa.co.uk/health/health-insurance/bupa-cancer-promise/i-know-someone-with-cancer

Please keep posting and we’ll be happy to help and support you through this

Take care

Karen x

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