Feeling alone

Hi MO 65 and a warm welcome to the board from me. I’m sorry to hear how you’re feeling but so glad you’ve found us here. If you don’t want to burden your daughter then please off-load here. Is there anything in particular that you’re worried about that we can help you with? 
The Macmillan support team on here is available 7 days a week from 8-8 if you want to have a chat with them on 0808 808 00 00. There’s also a Buddy scheme where you have a weekly telephone call with someone in a similar situation.

Please let us know if we can help you - there is nothing too daft or embarrassing on here?

Take care

Karen x

Thanks for answering me.  I was diagnosed 2 weeks ago after having pain in my stomach for a few weeks.  It's all happened so fast and I'm really grateful to the NHS and my GP for their quick response.  Whilst my daughter has been fantastic my partner has been less so.  I assume it's a male thing.  Several times he's said the same thing- get the operation done and after a couple of weeks everything will be back to normal.  I don't think so.  I don't know whether he really thinks that or if he's in denial.  

Hi Mo ,sending you a big hug 1st of all, i know its daunting 1st time around here, but these are lovely people, and they all rally round, this group has helped me a lot, given good advice, and tips, and its good to know someone will always reply to any questions you may want to ask, wishing you all the best for wedsnesday, just take it easy next couple of days, and plenty of rest after too, your daughter is by your side and thats good to know, Take care Love to you xx

Hi Mo 

Sorry you're feeling low.  Like Kareno62 says everyone on here will welcome you and support you with all the ups and downs you're no doubt going through and there's always someone who's going through  or been through something similar to you.  Its natural to feel anxious about surgery and you're certainly not alone on that front. But however you're feeling and wherever you are up to on your journey please don't feel alone, there are so many of us here fighting our own unique battles but there's always someone with time for a chat.  

There might be tough times a head but there will be good times too.

I hope your surgery goes well on Wednesday. 

All the very best  Mellyx

Hi MO 65,
A warm welcome to the board from me too. There are lots of people on here who’ll understand what you’re going through as they’ve been there too and you’ll get plenty of support. It’s good that you’ve found us.

It’s good that your team have responded quickly and you’re getting the surgery out of the way quickly. The first few weeks are a whirlwind of appointments and your emotions are all over the place. It’ll take you a while to process what’s been happening. I remember just before my operation and for a few days afterwards I was very tearful - everything catches up with you and becomes very real. I’m pleased you have a supportive daughter and maybe your partner is having difficulty processing what’s happening, it can be hard for people closest to you watching from the outside and often males deal with things in a totally different way to females.

Ask anything you want or just have a rant. We’re all here to support each other.

Best Wishes for Wednesday.
Big hug & take care,
Net77xx

Thanks to everyone for replying to me.  It's good to have others that understand how I feel.  I'll get prepared for my surgery and just focus on getting through it.  I'll probably be back on here when I get home. 

Hi all the best for wednesday.

If you want to click on my name it will give you a short bio.If anything is relevant please dont hesitate to ask.nothing is too silly to ask

Kath 

Hi Mo65 Just want to say hi to you and like everyone has said  off load on here. If you look up my story it may help you understand a few things. This group helped me so so much. It was a lifeline to me.  Whenever I posted a question or just needed a chat  there was always someone who answered. Even in the middle of the night someone seemed to be around. My husband went into denial also and didn't want to discuss much with me. He spent a lot of time in the garden hiding his feelings. It is only now 3yrs on from my op that he is able to talk about how he really felt at the time. Everyone copes differently and that is probably his way of dealing with it. Don't dwell too much on it because you are your priority now and the way I managed to get through everything was to make a list of small to do steps for each day. Sounds a bit daft but even setting yourself the smallest goals will help you emotionally and physically. Well done on getting this far and  a million good lucks for tom. You will get through all this and we are all thinking of you.

Love  and best wishes

Deb x

Lovely post seychelles88!