Hi I’m a newbie

Im not sure if this will help you but after I was diagnosed I was advised to try and take everything appointment by appointment. For example, if I had an appointment in 2 weeks time, I would put cancer to the back of my mind until that date.. (probably the day before) I told myself that there was nothing I could to until then, therefore there was no point in my worrying myself about it. Having my kids helped keep my mind off myself. I've had this attitude all through my journey. Even after my treatment when I had 12 weeks to wait until further scans etc, I just got on with my life. Obviously I worry near appointment time but there's no way I can waste time worrying about stuff that's out of my hands. I leave the medical stuff to my oncologist, nurses etc as I know I'm in great hands. All the other time I just see myself as a normal fit guy and when I do start to stress I get my earphones on and get out a walk. Again, this might not work for you or anyone else but it was great advice I had been given and honestly works for me. Hopefully you find a way to help you as well.

JC

Hi  and welcome to the board. I think people sometimes underestimate the after effects of cancer. You finish treatment, get the all clear, go back to work and carry on life as normal? But it’s not that easy. I found it quite unsettling when all my treatment stopped and I walked out the door knowing that my next contact would be a scan in 6 months time - it felt like my comfort blanket had been taken away. Have you gone back to work on reduced hours? Your employers are legally obliged to help ease your return back into work

https://bowelcancerorguk.s3.amazonaws.com/Publications/LivingWell_BowelCancerUK.pdf

Is there a local Maggies Centre near you? My hospital also ran a Moving on from Cancer course so you could maybe ask your colorectal support nurse if they do something similar? You’ve been through a big deal and, as a mum, you’ve probably out on a good front and just got on with things but then when you stop and think about it,the reality hits you. Be kind to yourself. Rest if you need to. Grab little naps if you get chance. 
You might also like to copy and paste this onto the Life after Cancer board - Mike the Highlander gives great advice 

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/life-after-cancer-forum

Hope you start to feel a bit better over time

Karen x

Hi Karen , yeah I went back on phased return but struggling now I’m back to normal hours. May have to think about cutting back a bit . Thanks for you reply and will try to comment on life after cancer board x

I’ve just got back from a walk at local nature reserve feel much better , thank you fmr your reply

Well done  you did a good thing getting out for a walk ! I have walked loads in recent years and it can pull you out from a difficult day ! 
Big welcome from me too!

Court 

Thank you so much , It did drag me back from very emotional day 

Hi , perhaps Kareno62 could give you the link to my go to paper? I still find this very helpful, and in the beginning I also gave it to my boss to read. Sending ((hugs))

Oh yes well done Gemmary  I’d forgotten about that!

https://www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf

Thank you so much for the link and I may well share with my boss . I have had a quick read through and can already see me referring back to this regularly, thanks again x

Thank you and I may share with my boss too , thanks again