Saying Hello

FormerMember over 3 years ago

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Hello, I am a 62yr old male who was totally unexpectedly diagnosed with colon cancer in late 2019. Tumour & my rectum were removed October that year & I underwent chemotherapy sessions til February 2020, fortunately finishing 2wks before 1st lockdown. During shielding I lost my job when bakery I worked at went bust.

I am the father of 24yr old twin boys who I had been forced to fight for contact with from their birth. I won in court, had regular contact & they spent secondary school years & college living with me before moving back to their mother but regularly visiting me. Since my diagnosis they have cut off all contact with me & ignored my attempts, so I still don’t know or understand why!

I’m a huge Chelsea fan & travelled everywhere to watch games, so found it very hard to miss games during treatment & lockdown but am starting to go again now.

cfckev

Kareno62 over 3 years ago

Hi and a warm welcome to the board from me. You sound to have had a really tough couple of years and I hope your boys realise what strength and courage it has taken you to recover from such a big operation and then cope with follow up chemo. I hope you can persevere and rebuild your relationship with them.

Good to hear that you’re managing to get out and about to the football again - it’s good to get back to doing the things you enjoy and I’m sure Stwhitm will agree with that.

Sorry I’ve not been able to offer any practical advice but glad you’ve joined us

Take care

Karen x

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Artsie over 3 years ago

Hi,

I am quite new here too and have found this is a place that has really helped me.

I’m sorry your boys have not been contacting you, it’s so painful however I have had a thought.

A friend of mine has recently had Hodgkins and a massive chemotherapy treatment, she’s now doing really well however her teenage children have been extremely anxcious.. the older son especially has had a fear of touching or getting near her. It’s been so upsetting the one thing they both needed was a huge cuddle but he was so frightened of giving her Covid from school.
I realise that your boys are much older but they may be feeling similar to my friends

I hope that you can start enjoy your football and they explain why they are not keeping up their contact with you. Best wishes. Artsie

Ann
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Stwhitm over 3 years ago in reply to Artsie

Morning Cfckev, sorry you find yourself on here. Kareno62 is right about doing things like going to football. Like you I'm tha father of twin boys, but thankfully enjoy an easier relationship with them

If you're not an active fan, ie one who goes, football and it's importance is not really understood. I went back to Anfield a month after surgery. The big loss for me was missing the final in 2018, my surgeon wouldn't 'sign off' a trip to the Ukraine. I was with one of my sons in Estadio Metropolitano in 2019, about 10 rows behind Brian Henderson - if you've never watched Jordan & his Dad that night YouTube it. Brian survived throat cancer and had a tough time, but that night it was 'happy tears' watching his lad lift the trophy. Iwas at Anfield in 2005 and have never known an atmosphere like it; sorry. It was odd in June, going wild at a Chelsea goal - we dislike City that much. I'm glad we've got one of the matches against you out of the way. Your formidable financial power and a good manager in Tuchel is going to make you top 2 contenders.

YNWA - good win yesterday but flattering

Mike