Hi all, I originally started on the Macmillan website when my wife of one year today was told she had gall bladder cancer, despite having it removed in 2017 ! Consultant believes gall bladder was cancerous when removed and some cells were wiped onto edges of keyhole surgery wound when tools were withdrawn. She started her chemo on 8/7/21 and of course after her second session on 15/7 the side effects kicked in and were quite bad for around 48 hours, by 17/7 wife was well enough for us to go out and enjoy a nice meal together.
then Monday 19th she started having severe pain below her waist, then diarrhoea and nausea, in the end she was admitted into the Christie just before midnight (the night before our first wedding anniversary) today she had a scan and this evening my wife called me to say scan not good. Apparently she has bowel blockage and signs of nodules around bowel which could be due to the cancer. To say we are devastated would be an understatement when just 4 weeks ago we were told her PET scan showed no signs of cancer having spread to anywhere else in her body and the hope was 3 months of chemo would be enough. My wife is so upset because tomorrow 21st is my birthday and she won’t be here and I’m currently not allowed to visit.
we both feel so helpless and that we never get any positive news. I have to say thank god for anti-depressants as I know I would be a complete wreck, it is so hard feeling so totally helpless and unable to help comfort and support the love of my life. We met later in life and are both in our 60’s and had lots of plans once lockdown eased as I took early retirement last October. Now we are unable to plan anything and we just don’t know what will hit us next. I have never felt so despondent, helpless and yes angry that we may be denied just a few more years of happiness together, and we have been denied spending our first anniversary together.
best wishes to you all.
Paul
