coping

Well I am glad you popped on where people completely understand why bowel cancer needs some compassion. Unfortunately people can had an odd response to a diagnosis either from fear or ignorance neither of which we can change but here we can offer you support and friendship as you go through this process .

It raises a lot of emotions and anxiety as you wait for results and wonder what treatment entails . Then their is the physical aspects to consider .

So I hope you can come here and let us help you through this .

Take care ,

Court 

I empathise. Do you think he is frightened. ? After all, illness changes all lives !?

Hi, Im new here,  I went to a&e in May after suffering sickness and pain in stomach for 10 days,(no other symptoms)  I thought i just had a sickness bug, how wrong I was. after a ct scan i was told I had a tumour which turned out to be cancerous I was in surgery the following day and due to start 6 months of chemo tomoz. It come as such a shock to myself and my husband and like you I dont think my husband is coping to well, he never talks about my bowel cancer and will change the subject if mentioned I know his scared but so am I, he was offered counseling but declined,  he helps around the house, doing the cooking/cleaning and helps me to change my stoma bag, he comes to every hospital appointment,  he is helpful in every other way but will not talk to me regarding my cancer maybe this is his way of coping. who knows? After surgery I could not look at my stomach for nearly 2 weeks as i was still in shock about my diagnoses and didnt want to see my scar or stoma bag im only 48, the bag does get me down somedays but as my husband keeps reminding me it has saved my life.

Take care. I think the disease creates unease in many relationships and people cope in their own way.