My dad has recently diagnosed with stage 3 bowel cancer, he's had a section removed without the need for the stoma bag, thankfully. He's started chemo, recently had a pet scan re additional lymphomas.. How do you stay positive in front of your parents when actually you're in full panic n potential meltdown mode n in fear of loosing a character in your life that has meant so much to you and still does, but also being told that you can't talk to anyone about it, but you live on your own... really.. what.. but also being given information via carrier pigeon, like I'm meant to know but then I'm not physic..
You might not believe this right now but it gets better . You strengthen to the situation and in spite of all you feel you put your mask on , do what is required in front of them then come here and let us support you !
Stage 3 is also treated with curative intent so maybe it’s also important to consider that you are supporting your dad through a difficult diagnosis but will hopefully result in him being cancer free and going forward to a full recovery with the help of his team .
Our helpline staff would be happy to chat this through with you . They are completely confidential and there to assist you through too!
It is frightening to think of anyone we love having to face a difficult diagnosis but with your care and support you can play a part in helping them return to their lives .
If you need help through this don’t be afraid to contact your own GP . I did and found it very helpful .
You just have to be there for them. Your love will support them. I have been in both situations. Back in 1991, my mother was diagnosed with brain cancer, that originated somewhere else, but was never ascertained where. I stayed with her for the six weeks till she died.
I was diagnosed with Bowel Cancer in May 2019. My own daughter was very supportive...& still is. Tonight, we just celebrated that right now.I am 'all clear & stable.' (I had'nt seen her for over a year.)
From my experience, when it comes to looking after the person you love, you have to be the stronger person....& I think that you become that person (even when you think you are not.)
When I was diagnosed, I didn't expect anything from my daughter...but I was assured that she loved me - & that was good enough for me to know!.
