Recently been diagnosed with Bowel Cancer, had surgery now awaiting Oncologist appointment

Hi . I’ve just replied to Glitterballs post and had to check it wasn’t the same one! I don’t think there is a ‘normal’ for dealing with cancer. I sat on the patio with a glass of wine while my husband rang his family with the news - I felt a bit bad when they were all asking how I was and he had to say I was sat there with a drink! There will be up and down days but to be honest I decided that I couldn’t change things so I might as well just get on with it. 
I worked part-time in an office and carried on during my chemiradiogherapy by havung early morning appointments then going in to work - I was a distraction and made my life feel normal. Was I in denial? Maybe a bit but it got me through my treatment so whatever works for you?

Hope you’re coping with the Ileostomy ok and please let us know how your appointment goes on Wednesday?

Take care

Karen x

Hi 

Big welcome from me too! My mum was like that too! I kept waiting on her to crash ! Despite some difficult days she was always looking forward. I think her oncologist thought she was in total denial and kept giving her some strong reality checks ! She was not pleased about that part !! Ha .

Great you are still working and can adjust that to suit ! 
Hope your appointment goes well . My mum came round to her oncologist and then had another super one for the last ten years . 
Take care ,

Court

Thanks Karan. It’s reassuring seeing others having been through the journey and the guidance is amazing. I’m not sure what to expect re the Chemo and then the Radio re side effects, length and wider impact? 

Perhaps I just wait for Wednesday?

Also as I’m self employed I’m not sure if I tell clients and intermediaries as all I said is I was having a “procedure” I’ve managed the client side thus far as zoom and phone calls are normal practice since March 2020 re lockdown 

kind regards 
Kenny

Thanks Court

So your mum had 2 oncologist? Not sure what you mean by “my mum came around to her oncologist”

He was very blunt to begin with but turned out to be a good oncologist which she could see despite his manner ! She was shocked initially at how blunt  he was .He then moved away to a pharmaceutical company to do research . 

Her cancer had spread so she was under the care of an oncologist for twelve years . Her most recent one was training when she was first diagnosed back in 2009 and went onto become her consultant . She was absolutely wonderful and she finally got discharged last month . She no longer requires any oncologist! She remained positive throughout the twelve years .

Take care ,

Court