My lovely Dads diagnosis

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hi everyone I’m new here and just wanted to share my story so far in the hope of trying to find much needed support. My lovely 81yr old dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer in December and in January had 5 weeks of radiotherapy which he reacted quite well too luckily. We then had further scans and tests and we were told last week that although the bowel tumour had shrunk it has now gone to his lymph nodes in his lungs ...we are all devasted and are currently waiting for his “options” appt to discuss possible treatments in 2 weeks time. I am trying to stay positive for my parents but when with my own family (I am married with 2 teenage boys) I am struggling to get through the day. It’s just so so sad watching a man that has been so fit and well all my life now slowly deteriorating right in front of me and I feel helpless. I have attended every appointment including his radiotherapies with him ( as mum has trouble walking) and for his sake try to stay upbeat and cheerful but behind close doors I’m heartbroken. Just taking one day at a time. Sorry to go on but it feels good to get it all out . Thanks for listening

court over 4 years ago

Just want to say I hear how hard you are finding this . It’s terribly sad to see people you love going through this .

However they may well consider some treatment for him as long as he is strong enough to take it ! That can be very good at containing or shrinking spread .
There is still hope that they will be able to offer him some assistance.
You clearly love your dad and that’s just wonderful and I hope they are able to give him some help in managing his condition

We are very much here for you to get support at any time . If you ever need to speak to anyone in person our helpline staff are always there . 0808 808 0000

take care ,

Court

Helpline Number 0808 808 0000

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to court

Thank you so much and yes will remain hopeful that he will be well enough to get some treatment

FormerMember over 4 years ago

Hi Maza3010 . I understand your emotions as my Dad too has just been diagnosed. Currently waiting to have discussion with Oncologist to arrange radiotherapy. I am just like you...trying to keep strong in front of parents but behind closed doors a different story. We just have to take one day at a time as hard as it is. Sending you a virtual hug xx

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Thank you so much Cruising and I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. I’m finding the waiting around really difficult too as you always expect the worst which is why I’m learning to take one day at a time. I’m so glad I’ve joined here as I already do not feel alone in this and as much as family and friends try to help unless you are going through it you never truly understand. Hugs to you all x

Rubyroo14 over 4 years ago

Hi Maza,

so sorry to hear your news. Like you I’m new here and can associate with all of the feelings you’re going through. One day at a time, is the only advice I can give you as I’m only a few weeks further down the road, with my brother who is now on chemo for his cancer.

I’m finding that there are good and bad days in terms of how he is feeling, so I’m learning that this is the way it’s going to be.

look after yourself.

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to Rubyroo14

Thank you Rubyroo and sending all my wishes for your brothers chemo to work for him x