My partner has had a successful op but is dreading chemo starting next week. All they tell us is the side effects - nothing positive to hold on to
Hi and welcome to the board. There’s quite a few people going through chemo at the minute who will hopefully pop in. I won’t lie - there are a lot of side effects to chemo but there are also a lot of pills and potions to combat them. Do you know what chemo he’ll be having and how long for?
The positives are that although it’s not pleasant it is doable. The nurses will keep a close eye on him and deal with any side effects as and when. It’s worth keeping a diary as a reminder for when they ask if he’s has any problems and also you may find that a routine occurs where he’s, say, fatigued for the first couple of days and then picks up so you know to work round this for the next cycle.
Chemo is the belt and braces after surgery - I like to think of the tumour as being a weed that’s been dug out and the chemo being a blast of weed killer just to be on the safe side. At the end of the day it’s your hubby’s choice - he could give it a go and if it really is intolerable then it would be his decision to stop but I would personally take anything I was offered to reduce my chances of a reoccurrence.
Glad to hear the op has been a success and hope he feels able to take this last step
Take care
Karen x
Hi LindaJ9. Welcome to the community.
Pleased to hear your partners operation went well.
I’m presently going through chemotherapy (Folfox) after surgery in January (anterior resection). I’m now just had my 4th cycle infusion with 2 more cycles left to go. I’d decided that I would take anything that was offered regarding beating the cancer but to be honest once I’d read the information I was given re side effects and researched some of it, I did have second thoughts. I asked a lot of questions to ensure I had the information to make an informed decision.
I decided to go for the chemotherapy and although not pleasant is doable, it hasn’t been anything like as bad as I imagined. The nurses are fantastic and keep a close eye on you. I have a chemotherapy book where I record and side effects no matter how small and the day they occur; you can see a pattern emerge which has helped me in further rounds as I know which days are maybe going to be not so good and which days are likely to be good days.
Ask any questions on here, no matter how silly they may seem. I too hope you’re able to give the chemotherapy a try and send you my best wishes.
Take Care,
Nett77 X
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