Difficulty in fooing

Hi 

Welcome to the forum . That was a very rough way to find out about your husband’s condition on Christmas Eve . 
I guess everyone is different when it comes to coping but I used a very simple technique. A patient told me to keep my mind where my body was . Not allowing it to wander off to worst case scenarios that were not actually happening at that point in time . Accept that they have a difficult diagnosis and whilst it is incurable it is very much treatable. That in itself can open up new treatments. I also gave myself time to confront my fears but only for a limited period of time . Also time to escape , go for a walk , a coffee . I found my GP incredible at the beginning. He gave me help to allow me time to strengthen .

We also stayed connected to life . Did projects and planned events for the end of chemo etc . Joining here was also a source of strength to me . Not only did I get informed about options for treatment but I also engaged with people going through the same and I used some of what they shared to get a handle on this .

I also found some hope in that a sub group of patients actually do well despite a difficult diagnosis. I wanted to know more about that .

You have your own health needs and that matters . I am not sure what exactly would work for you but hope that by reading what others do might give you some ideas . 
Your husband sounds as though he is having a rough ride on chemo and that is tough to watch . My mum was the same and it took us time to get the balance on what we should be reporting to the oncologist. The second year she had her dose reduced and what a difference that made to her side effects so don’t be afraid to contact his team .

We have a helpline here too. 0808 808 0000. They would be happy to chat through any aspect of this to help you get a handle on the situation .There is also a carers group if that is of any interest to you .

Take care and hope we can make this all a bit easier for you .

Court 

Thanks ..I really appreciate your support. Sorry about the type..it should read difficult in coping!

No problem at all . We are here for you .

Court