Time to say Goodbye!

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It is with a heart full of sadness that I have to share my mum passed yesterday . 15 years to the week she got a letter through the post to say she had a positive bowel screen . 
Other health issues surfaced and it was not cancer in the end .

Mum was pretty unique from the word go as she genuinely never thought of cancer in her body despite living as a stage 4 patient for 15 years .She felt at peace throughout . 

Her trusted GP who has been there encouraging us from the start visited yesterday and said it’s time girls . And what a better way to go at home with her daughters . My cousin and sister are both nurses and stayed to the end . I went to pieces as goodbyes are just ever so hard but I was with her most days and now have to learn to do her legacy justice . 

She had a story to tell . That you can still live a good life despite a difficult diagnosis and an uncertain future . At the very start she caught the attention of her oncologist and said she would be completely compliant with all advice given but her number of days were not in his hands . Turns out she was right .

She was an incredibly loving and generous person and deeply stubborn.

I will be stepping back from the CC role but happy to stay in the background and encourage any stage four patient finding their feet with a difficult diagnosis. 

I would also like to pay tribute to  . She steps up so many times for this forum .

I wish you all successful treatments and many many happy days with your families as that’s what it is all about .

Much love to all  

Court 

  • Hi Court!

    I am so sorry to hear your news. My deepest condolences to you and the family. Your mum was indeed a trooper and an inspiration to everyone here fighting stage 4 cancer. I would like to thank you for your input on my own journey with going through Jay's diagnosis and now with my sister although tests are still pending for her and she will find out about these hopefully at the end of this month when she sees her bowel cancer specialist. I think she will be ok and hopefully as they told me these tests they have done with her are routine just to keep tabs on her but then it is always at the back of your mind that they will find something else but I need to educate myself not to keep thinking that way. God Bless you and best wishes for the future your mum I am sure will be very sadly missed. Take Care.

    Vicky xx

  • I am so sorry to hear about your mum’s death.  She inspired so many people who receive the devastating news that they have a Stage 4 cancer diagnosis! You will never know how many people you have helped by sharing your experiences! Your mum gave hope to everyone who read your posts! Thank you and much love to you and your family!

    Jac

    Life is what happens when you are making other plans!  
     
     
  • I am so sorry to hear this court. Your mother sounded like an extraordinary person - strong, resilient, yet with a zest for life, She must have passed a lot of those characteristics to you; as you were a very strong, caring daughter to her, yet also, you have been something of a rock on this forum - continuously giving your care, support & valuable advice to so many others on this platform, myself included - thank you personally for that.

    Many best wishes & love to you - as you move forward/

    Marianne xx

  • Hello Court

    I was sad to read about your mum she always sounded like a very special lady dealing with her illness with fortitude and humour.

    Your posts have been inspirational to me and I'm sure many others. I don't post often but do read others stories and replies with interest.

    May I wish you and your family peace and happiness with many good memories of your lovely mum.

    Caroline 

  • Hello Court,

    So sorry to hear the news about your mother.  You will miss her terribly but should take some comfort that you have done everything possible in the past 15 years to support and love her.  While you were doing that you have been a wonderful help to all the others on this forum.  A great lady supported by another great lady.

    Our thoughts and love are with you and your family.

    Jane

  • So sorry for your lost Court .My deepest condolences.

  • Dear Court,

    Your Mum, you and all your family all in my thoughts.

    Take some time for yourselves.

    Tom (Maninbath)

  • Dearest Court, beautiful words and sentiments you have beautfully shared now and throughout yours and your mums journey. She was very well blessed to have you and such a supportive family, it doesn’t surprise me as the saying goes the apples don’t fall far from the tree….i and others have learned so much from you and mums experiences over the years and I personally thank you and mum…may God bless you and her and be with you….peace and love and blessings dearest Court. X

  • I’m so very sorry to hear of the passing of your dear mum . I’m sure you told her many, many times how inspiring a lady she was, not least by allowing you to share the details of her cancer journey and experiences with hundreds ( maybe thousands) of folks like us who have had a similar diagnosis and who really appreciated that empathetic support as we navigated our way through the physical and emotional pathway linked to this disease . She clearly was a very special , strong , selfless lady . 
    And from reading your responses to people on the chat , you most definitely have the same kind of heart as your mum had . 
    I’ll be praying for you to know God’s comfort as you grieve the passing of your mum . 
    Thank you 

    Isabel 

  • Oh Court 
    I am extremely saddened to hear about the loss of your wonderful mother. 
    You and your mothers story has been a true inspiration to everyone on this site. 
    I want to thankyou from the bottom of my heart for all your support over the last 5 months , your help and reassurance has been a godsend and im sure many people will second this. 
    Take care and may your beautiful mum rest in peace. 
    Charlie