What has cancer taking away from you?

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On top of everything else (sex, freedom of plan thing without thinking I’ll be able to do it without toilet issues, pain (this hasn’t taken away),peace.

now I have found out my friends, last year wee went to cancun, it was great but I had a meltdown about a massage (deep inside was about all the pain, diarrhoea, estress and having to take the most difficult decision of my live put my dog to sleep) so I cried one day because my massage was messed up so I could have it, this drama made some of them uncomfortable (fear enough).

the way I found out it has been because we were going to Punta Cana this year (I say we’re because my husband and I have decided to cancel all). Talking with another friend she told me I can’t belie you are going away after what happened last year me what happened last year!!!????

no more group holiday for us I can’t be 100% sure I won’t have either a meltdown or a

health problem or even worse both

Artsie over 1 year ago

I’m so sorry that you’ve had such a terrible time.
Maybe plan little things that you feel confident with

I can’t blame cancer for my troubles. They would have happened anyway but I probably wouldn’t have been here to deal with them

Covid and Cancer had a huge impact on my mental health and at times I struggle like most here.

My world is much smaller than it was ,

I’m okay with that and my family and friends that have been there for me are the important ones in my life.

Others I don’t think about, I think before that I used to spend too much time worrying about people that really didn’t and don’t give a damn about me.
That doesn’t hurt now, let them get on with it.

Try pulling your loved ones closer and shut the others out. Not be rude but just not worry about them

Sending you a hug c

Ann
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Maninbath over 1 year ago

Hi. I’m with Artsie in that cancer has shrunk my world, compounded by the fact I have also developed non-epileptic seizures so can no longer legally drive. The worst part for me is not being able to plan more than 3 months ahead (the frequency of my scans - as my cancer is incurable). That said I have no great urge to travel the world. My wife and I have instead decided to take more long weekends and see the bits of the UK I haven’t got to yet. It helps maximise the remainder of our time together and let’s me do a little bit of planning with some certainty that the plan will come to fruition.

I am perhaps fortunate in that in addition to my family and close friends I have also been able to draw on counselling services and the support of both neuro and cancer psychologists. This has demonstrated to me that talking therapies really do help. They have also helped me deal with what cancer takes away. May be give talking therapy a try?

All the best.

Tom

Artsie over 1 year ago in reply to Maninbath

Hi Tom

I really like your planning to see the UK the missed out bits.
We’ve been threatening that for yonks.
Been to Australia but not Yorkshire.
we are hoping to fit some trips in around hospital visits.

My husband has health issues too. Sometimes it’s like we are competing for attention

im actually sat in a Hos waiting room at the mo

Take care all

Thanks for your positive post.

Ann
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