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Hi Hatariforce 

I am heartbroken to read your post and I send all my love to you and your older son .

14 is such a vulnerable age with so much going on at the best of times . It’s just heart wrenching .

I shall be speaking to Macmillan next week and see if we can think of ways to highlight the support available as you mentioned . 
I am always here to support and listen to you .

All my love ,

Court 

hi Hatariforce, I  know I don't know you but I feel so very sorry to hear of your young sons death. You must be heart sore. The emotional toll on family members is huge and complicated. I am so glad you and your other son are seeking professional help. X.

Hi court,

I would greatly appreciate it if you could highlight this experience. I learned the hard way, others don't. 

All the best for you and Mum. 

Hi  Hatariforce , heartbroken. Please also ensure any college/university is fully appraised of the situation for your older boy. They too can help. In my case they were a second backup for my daughter, with a watching brief in case things went wrong at university, as it was the other side of the country. Ok I'm still here, but even so, they can support as needed. (((Hugs)))

Stephen, That is beyond imaginable.  So so sad for your family. 

Condolences dont even touch the surface of the pain you ( and your elder son) must be going through.

So many young kids seem to feel their only answer is suicide. I know you will do everything you can to support your older son and Gemmary is wise to suggest additional support from university etc.

Please make sure you give your self  a lot of time to selfcare and nurture too.

I hope the funeral is not to overwhelming for you both. Sending warm wishes 

Heartbroken to read this. There are no words. Sending love and prayers.

Hatariforce heartbroken, so very sorry, sending love 

There is no chemotherapy for my pain. There is no surgeons to cut out my pain. There is no quick fix. It's going to take time to heal, but not forget. My oldest is 21 and the only surviving family member is my hero. Without him saying "Dad it is not your fault". Without him promising me he would not do what his brother did. I would not be here.

My son in heaven I love you. My son on earth I love you. My wife in heaven I love you. 

 Hatariforce 

It’s so difficult but he would have know how much you loved him and wanted the best for him . Just a young boy  overwhelmed by loss . Even as adults with the benefit of maturity loss is hard to process . 

It most definitely is not your fault . 

My heart is with you and your older son . 

Court 

Hatariforce

I’ve been reading your post and feel for you. Teenagers are so hard to read and cover their feelings well. 
Take time for you and your eldest son to try and process this tragedy.

I am so sorry for your loss.