The End

I’m so sorry for your loss. That doesn’t sound like the right thing to say somehow. I wish I was better with words. You’re a very kind person posting your loss on here. It’s strange how we feel like we know each other, and when someone stops posting it’s hard not to worry about what might have happened to them. I’m 60 this year and feel lucky,  I was 55 when I was diagnosed. Catching cancer early as we all know now is so vital in giving us the best possible chance of a good outcome. I hope you have plenty of support at what must be an incredibly difficult time. Take care of yourself.

Oh Hatariforce ,

It is always so sad to read this . You both had such a difficult situation to deal with and your love remains so strong . I still don’t understand how two people with the same cell type and treatment can have such different results . I still long for this mystery to be resolved and stop this pain .

I am so touched by your comments and send all my love and strength to you as you come to terms with your loss .

She sounded so special .

Take special care ,

Court 

Sorry for your loss Stephen. You are right about catching after the cancer early increasing the chances of coming through. I was fortunate in that I broke that rule but they still brought me back from the brink, though with a stoma (bag) for life. It is saddening to see many around me fare worse and as with your wife, many do not make it through. Initially on my prognosise, I didn't fight it, but waited patiently to be given a guesstimate on how long I had left.  After two months of tests, the bowel cancer was confirmed but the specialists told me they were confident they could get it out of me  - only then did I start resisting, but surgery and drugs did more than my my will to survive.  I'm fifteen years older than your wife was, and 45 is really no age to go - 98 is no age to go with cancer for that matter.  No doubt your time with your wife has given you much joy and enriched your life. Not being religious, I see no afterlife, but she does live on in your memory, perception and heart.  What she went through would undoubtedly have been much worse for her without your love and support. Best wishes possible under the circumstances.    

Thank you for your kind words. They meant alot and strength to you on your journey. 

Dear Hatariforce/Stephen

Thank you for so bravely posting at this difficult time.

I hope your kindness, reflection and hope to the forum from your posting will also give you strength for your own journey ahead.

Thoughts are with you

I'm so sorry Stephen,

Only just saw this post, it is always so sad to read such news and at such a young age. 

Whilst we are all strangers we do become invested in each others experiences and journeys. Thank you for sharing 'the end'. However our stories turnout it is good for posters to read closure rather than always wonder what happened to x,y,or z. 

I am sure you will move forward with strength and happy memories. 

Parky x

Hello Stephen,

I an so relate to your situation. I myself have just lost my beloved husband Jay. He finally gave up the fight after almost two years and passed on the 23rd June. Today I go to `visit` him at the funeral parlour one last time before he is gone forever tomorrow. I have very mixed emotions at present. It has been a long 2 years on this journey and he just about took everything they could throw at him but this beast of a disease that is cancer decided it was taking him one way or another this with sepsis thrown in too I don't think helped either. I am absolutely broken. My best wishes to you.

Vicky x

I am.so sorry for your loss, your lovely wife fought to stay as long as she could, a brave lady you shared love with. Please access support and i hope your friends and family gather around to remember and share their memories . Im not good with words so i hope you will forgive my clumsiness