Feeling lost

Morning kell

im the one going through chemo at the moment and understand how worrying it can be for the partner. I’m on some anti-depressant medication from my gp which I take at night time to help me sleep but it also seems to help me cope with the situation. Perhaps that’s something you can consider? 

We’ve also had to cancel our trip to Australia, where my only family live and we haven’t been there for 5 years. We were due to go at Christmas but I’ve been advised not to as, if everything goes to plan, I’ve got to have major surgery to remove 2 tumours and this is likely to.take place September/October. 

it’s probably easy for me to say, but I don’t look forward any further than the next step - which for me is finishing my 2nd round of chemo on 10 July and a week off tablets .

Hope this is of some help xx

Morning Tufty53,

Thank you for your reply.

I hope your treatment is going well and hopefully you will be able to enjoy the week off tablets. My husband will be starting his then.

I feel a fraud moaning about it all as like I said it is my husband that is going through it.

I too am on anti-depressant tablets as well as anxiety tablets. I dread to think what I would be like without them.

Just can't seem to find any kind of strength at the moment, I am working which gets me out of the house but then I feel guilty as my husband has had to give up work.

I guess I am just feeling sorry for myself, although I have to stay strong for my husband and son.

Take care and I will try and take your advice and only look to the next step.

Kell xx

Hi Kell. Please don’t apologise for coming on here and ‘moaning’ - we’re here to support you through it all and quite often the only people who actually ‘get it’ are those going through it or supporting someone who is.

Try and remember that thoughts are not facts and the chemoradiotherapy might not be as bad as you’re expecting. I know chemo can sound scary but the tablets are a pretty low dosage which is used to enhance the effect of the radiotherapy. 

I had an 8 week break after finishing my radiotherapy and before surgery and had a weeks holiday in Cyprus. Could you maybe look into a cancellation if hubby’s still feeling ok or maybe a week away in this country?

Take care and please keep posting

Karen x

Good morning Kell,

so sorry to hear your news. You’re bound to be tearful you have a lot going on, the shock of your husband getting cancer, and whet the outcome is going to be. You have a house to run, work and look after your son. Your probably not sleeping either with thoughts going on in your head.

My husband had 4 rounds of chemo and surgery last week, you do feel lost and sad a lot. The chemo itself is ok just prepare yourself that your husband may not want to eat and will be very tired and may struggle, my husband became nasty not all the time which was not his character at all. It’s a long road ahead, can you speak to your friends or family how you feel?

you can ring McMillan support they are very good, I phoned them a few times when I felt down.

it’s a shame about your holiday but maybe in between chemo treatments maybe you can go out for nice days if it’s nice and sunny

take care & Big Hugs to you 

Hi Kell Sug 

Have you had a chat with your GP ? I found it most helpful when my mum was diagnosed. I knew I had to get to a better frame of mind .

It really can be helpful and lots of different ways to assist .

Take care ,

Court 

Hi Kell Sug

Unfortunately cancer does a put a stop to everything. Doesn't mateer who or what you are or where you're from if it wants to have you it will. Just took my husband Jay after an almost 2 year battle with it. It won! he lost! Yes speak to your GP how you feel. My doctor has put me on Diazepam at the minute as my head is just mush at the minute. I just don't know if I'm coming or going just now just so much to think about in the days ahead. Good luck to you though I hope they can do something for your husband. Take Care. 

Vicky xx

Hi Karen

Thank you for your message.

It is such a stressful time at the minute as he hasn't started his treatment and obviously don't know how he is going to react to it. 

He has been looking at a week away in this country in his break from treatment. I have asked him to see how he feels nearer the time as I am scared he won't feel up to it.

Hope you are ok, Take care

Kell xx

Hi SandraJH

Thank you for getting in touch.

I want to remain strong for both my husband and son just feel like there is too much to sort out before treatment begins.

How is your husband? And how are you?

It is so much to deal with isn't it?

As for holidays we are going to see how he feels during his break between treatment. It may be we just have a few days away in this country.

Take care xx

Hi Court,

I haven't spoken to my Dr about how I am feeling.

I might ring up tomorrow, I am having good and bad days but need to concentrate on feeling strong for my family.

Take care 

Kell xxx

Awww Vicky I am so sorry to hear about your husband.

It is an awful illness and causes a lot of heartache.

I hope you have friends and family around you at this difficult time.

I will speak to the Dr and see what they can help with.

Take care of yourself lots of love Kell xx