Hi everyone
I'm Steph from the Community team
Here is a new thread for carers, family and friends. This is a space for you to chat, share experiences and support each other through issues related to your loved ones bowel cancer. The previous thread will shortly be locked as it was getting rather long which can make it difficult to navigate.
Please remember that we also have other dedicated spaces on the Community for carers, family and friends. These spaces exist so you can support each other away from members of the forum who might be dealing with their own cancer diagnosis:
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Thank you Scarlett. I really hope you are taking care of yourself. Also my thoughts are with you xx
Hi everyone. Like Jkee we wait now to see if he has an op on Tuesday but I think they are leaving it too late.
helen you are doing amazing considering what you have been through. Just take a breath now and then and try and look after yourself
everyone else I am sending hugs as I am just going to get something to eat. Speak later xx
Hi Everyone!
Well, Sad News. Nicole's mum passed this afternoon. Don't know what time exactly but William phoned me just a short while ago think it happened just before 5 o'clock. Was expected but still a shock when it happens. Asked William if they know for definite what it was and he said Nicole said they said basically it was the cancer that had just spread and other infections she got her body just couldn't fight it anymore. Just need to try to be there for them now as I've been through it all already. No doubt I'll need to have Myla next week at some point not too bad though she is in nursery most days so it will be one or two days I will need to have her for them. Guess I'll be the `go to` grandparent now which I don't really mind much. Good to hear your appointments went ok Jkee and Maggie but then there is still the waiting to find things out that is the worst bit. Hope Les can get the go ahead for his op Maggie. Jkee what a carry on with Simon and breakdowns in communication- and equipment. Helen as Maggie says you are doing great with Paul considering everything else you've been through. Think the `big man` up above likes to test us every now and again. That rollercoaster is getting higher and faster with no way of stopping just now but all we can do is ride it until it does eventually stop. Bless you all and you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Take Care all and try and have a good weekend.
Vicky xx
Thank you Scarlett.
Yes its been an absolute horrible day for me. Just one of those days where nothing goes right and things have been breaking down or just breaking and then I got that phone call. Think I'll just have a `wee half or 3` later and just put everything down to a bad day. Take Care.
Vicky x
Hi Vicky sad news for your family it must be hard for William but it's good Nicole has got him to lean on and understand.As much as it's lovely to see our grandchildren it's hard work but you are a good support for them. I didn't sleep again last night and had my 2 grandchildren today which actually helped me they bought the tablet each and chilled a lot .I hope you get a break soon how about we all have a spa day lol just a dream xx
Sending condolences to William and his family. Such a sad time again that you have to relive all over again. The rollercoaster just goes faster as you say. We never heard anything today about Tuesday so guess that is not happening. To keep busy I was organising stamps in the massive collection that we paid half for off his sister. I will post a pic of a few.
jkee a spa day would be great but in our dreams. See what Monday brings. I hope Helen is okay as have not heard from her in a while.
his father collected them for donkeys but now we are moving them into those black things. There is so much to learn about stamps, perfs, watermarks etc etc. I don’t touch the ones I am not sure about until les feels better and we don’t have all the gear. It keeps me busy for now. I low I am boring you all now.
Oops pressed the wrong button. Just one more
thoughts are with you all xx
Thanks Everyone!
It doesn't affect me directly this time but she was William's future mother-in-law. Now they both have a parent who won't be present at their wedding next year. My new extended family as well I suppose. I worry this will affect things for them and just hope it doesn't. This may be triggering for William so soon after losing his dad. Grrr!! bloody cancer just wish it would `do one` but don't think that will happen any time soon. Take Care Ladies.
xx
Vicky it will be very sad next year but just remind them that their loved ones would want them to be happy on the day. My dad died before I got married and I reminded myself that he would want me to be happy. You are a strong lady and will help them get through this. You are also a great support on here and for your family. Just being there will be enough and helping with the the wee one. I am not very good with words but my heart goes out to you and your family. Hugs xx
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